Section Four: Important Helps

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Contents of Section Four


Reprogramming and Programming through Doctrines of DemonsReligious ProgrammingFractal ProgrammingCarousel ProgrammingSpirit Man ProgrammingSeat of Dominion ProgrammingGatewaysJesus ProgrammingAngel ProgrammingDragon Programming


For the Non-Dissociate IndividualFor the Dissociative Individual



The Basic Reason for BacklashDemonic Attack or TormentVisitations from the DemonicHuman AttackHuman Visitation in the Astral RealmsBacklash from the Internal System of Those Who Have Dissociative DisordersHow to Deal with These Attacks





An Overview to Understanding Dissociation and D.I.D.Thoughts on HealingThoughts on System WorkThoughts on Heavy Work, Grounding, and ProcessingThoughts About Support PersonsThoughts to Potential Support Friends


I. End-Time Programming

In the next chapter, “Finding Freedom,” we speak at length about finding freedom from the programming found in the fractal spirituality that is present in the many different charismatic teachings we have discussed throughout this book. Additionally, the “Finding Freedom” section will be helpful in finding freedom from many different types of programming, since the steps that are listed in that chapter are very basic. But right now in this chapter, we will mainly stick to identifying the different types of what we, the authors, are calling “End-Time programming.” We don’t know if there is a proper term for this type of programming we are talking about, but since it centers around Satan’s end-time plan to widen his net and bring widespread deception to Christians, this is what we are calling it.

Before we get into specifics, there are a few points to consider:

  1. We don’t consider this to be a complete list of End-Time programs. These are simply some of the specific programs we know that are being used.

  2. The End-Time programming may affect non-dissociative people differently than those who are dissociative, in particular the Jesus and Angel programming. We say this for three reasons:

    1. Sometimes dissociative individuals who have been previously programmed through mind-control agendas, will already have Jesus and Angel programming that may be active or has been dormant until triggered, such as through “deliverance counseling.” However, a non-dissociative individual will not have had this previous programming.

    2. If the general type of Religious programming is strong enough within a non-dissociative person, then there may not be a need for a specific Jesus or Angel programming that has been inserted through trauma-based mind-control agendas. Their religious scripts will already accommodate allowing a “Jesus” or “angels” to influence them, although this certainly is a type of demonic programming.

    3. Lastly, specific mind-control programs can affect different people in different ways for a myriad of reasons, because each person is individual and unique. We must assume the same is true for the End-Time programming we are talking about in this book, so our list is very basic and not an absolute that covers all bases. It is simply a starting point to begin to understand how this type of programming affects people. If you have been programmed with any of these scripts, the most important thing to know is that your Heavenly Father can set you free from any and all programming, and He alone knows the ins and outs of that programming and how you can find freedom. So rely on Him, and not on any information we are able to provide.

  3. Not everyone will have these particular types of programming, and one programming script may be stronger in one individual, but weaker with another individual. This is important only for the purposes of intellectually understanding how everything links together within individual people; however, it’s not really important to finding freedom from these programming scripts, even for those who are dissociative. We say this because freedom is not found by going into the system and unraveling all the scripts and unplugging all the connections.

So how do we find freedom? By asking our Heavenly Father to do the work. We do not set ourselves free; He does. All we need to do is submit to Him and allow Him to do the work. This is true for those who are dissociative or non-dissociative.

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Reprogramming and Programming through Doctrines of Demons

When dealing with individuals who have been programmed through trauma-based mind control, demons assist the programmers in various ways, including:

  • to keep alters hidden from the front alter (the person themselves who is actively involved in everyday life)
  • to direct the activities of the alters
  • to keep programming hidden and protected
  • to facilitate the triggering of programs
  • to ensure specific programs continue to run

Basically speaking, these programming scripts hold demons (conversely, this can be expressed as “demons hold the programming scripts”), and when programming is triggered, demons are loosed, and some of them will take control of certain alters that have been set in place for that purpose. This is out of the control of the individual who has been programmed, because sometimes they don’t even realize it is happening. If they do realize that something is going on, they aren’t always aware of what it is or why it is happening. It is important to note, however, that God can bring clarity and understanding to the individual so they can begin to receive healing. With Him, nothing is impossible.

Regardless of whether programming takes place in underground tunnels under the direction of a NWO programmer, or if the programming takes place on a Skype call with a “deliverance counselor,” the same holds true for any type of programming: demons always come along with the programming because people open their minds and their hearts to be invaded. With TBMC individuals, they have, through trauma, been forced into dissociation, which then opens their minds and hearts to be invaded. With those going through “deliverance counseling,” they are often tricked into opening up to the demonic, believing they are opening themselves up to God. And of course, some people, particularly those who are not dissociative, have purposefully opened themselves up to being programmed through these doctrines of demons, because they want supernatural experiences, not realizing they are opening themselves up to the demonic and are being invaded.

The thing to keep in mind for a dissociative individual going through these types of programming within a “deliverance counseling” situation, is that sometimes the counselor will freely admit that they are engaging in what they call “reprogramming.” However, since the client is under the misconception that they are going through “Christian” counseling, they put up with this “reprogramming” because they believe it is God who is “reprogramming” them.

This programming, or triggering of latent programming, is made possible by the client being in a dissociative, or semi-dissociative, hypnotic state. Purposeful commands or suggestion, whether intentional or unintentional, are given by the counselor. This suggestion or command is aided by the imagination of the person (visualization) and by the demons that are already present. Any previous programming scripts, such as Religious programming or Jesus programming, will reinforce that suggestion. All these things work together to create a demonically-controlled program that will run inside the system of a person.

And the same thing is happening to non-dissociative people who are diving into these types of ungodly doctrines: they are opening their minds to being systematically programmed by coming into agreement with doctrines of demons, and by purposefully opening up the spiritual space within them to be invaded by the demonic.

To those who don’t understand how programming works, opening one’s mind to suggestion seems like such an innocuous thing. And for some, it may be easy to get out from under this deception by logically thinking themselves out of it. However, if it were an easy thing to get out from under, we wouldn’t have so many Christians who are being deceived by doctrines of demons!

Not only is the Fractal programming found within these other “doctrines” creating a logic-loop that is literally preventing people from seeing and understanding the truth and from being able to clearly understand the Word of God, but these programming scripts are reinforced and held in place by demons. This is true even for those who are non-dissociative. Moreover, the deception is often reinforced by strong, pre-existing Religious programming that has already laid a foundation for all the other programming scripts to be built upon, and this Religious programming keeps them from recognizing the difference between a work of God and a work of Satan. They don’t usually realize the programming or reprogramming is causing even more harm to themselves until the emotional, mental, spiritual, and even physical damage is severe.

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Religious Programming

We have already discussed this earlier under “Definition of Christian Witchcraft,” so we will not go over too much here. However, even though this type of programming is not specific to “End-Time Programming,” the Religious programming is very important to the rest of the End-Time programming. It is, in a sense, foundational to the other programming scripts.

For many, the Religious programming could be thought more of as a “brainwashing” or “indoctrination” that most people go through to one extent or another. For some, this Religious programming may include trauma-based mind-control programming. And there are other people who may have both types of programming.

Generally speaking, within mind-control situations, both types of Religious programming work together to serve as a barrier to memories of being involved in occult activities. This keeps the individual dissociated from the heinous things they are forced to be involved in, because it does not line up with what they consciously consider their religious and moral values to be.

More specific to End-Time programming, however, Religious programming prevents the individual from recognizing the difference between a work of God and a work of Satan, and serves as an avenue through which spiritual experiences are filtered, making what is overtly occult seem as if it’s of God. It also serves to reinforce the other types of programming, particularly Jesus and Angel Programming, by, again, acting as a filter through which the individual experiences encounters with “Jesus” or “angels,” causing the individual to believe that what the spiritual beings are telling them or showing to them is of God. It also causes people to read the Scripture through the filter of the religious spirit that is holding this programming in place, causing the individual to grossly misinterpret or even to completely misread the Word of God, giving confirmation to their occult ideas and doctrines. Similarly, the Religious programming also may make it impossible for the individual to read the Bible, and so they then rely on others — most often occult-minded individuals — to read or “explain” Scripture to them, not realizing the interpretations given by others are false.

If the Religious programming is weak, the rest of the programming will likely not stick, or will quickly fall apart. This is not to say there won’t be repercussions from which the individual will need to find freedom, and it’s also of vital importance that the individual come under submission to God, so that they will not be susceptible to being deceived by the demonic again.

However, if the Religious programming is strong, the rest of the programming will be very secure, and it will likely be more difficult to see the deception, and more difficult to get out from under it. But not impossible. With God, all things are possible.

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Fractal Programming

Fractals are not specific only to “End-Time” programming, and as we have stated before, we, the authors, are using this term “fractal programming” simply for the ease of writing and reading. We are aware that fractals may not technically be an actual “programming script” in and of itself, although, because of our experiences, we do believe in some cases, they may be.

However, although there may be a better term to use rather than fractal “programming,” the idea behind fractals are used within mind-control programming, and it is a way to insert many different types of programming scripts that are self-perpetuating. Since the object of programming is to control people’s minds; and since, as we have shown, fractals are making that control possible through the fractal spirituality of certain programming scripts, such as “Spirit Man theology”; therefore for these reasons, we call the fractal spirituality found within such teachings to be “fractal programming.”

The main thing fractal programming does is keep the individual on a never-ending logic-loop, unable to tell the difference between the truth and a lie, or what is real and what is not real. It brings a lot of confusion. Therefore, this concept of fractals within “fractal spirituality” is foundational for how the rest of the End-Time programming scripts are able to take root within the individual, and it is at least one avenue through which people are being programmed by false, demonic teachings that are based on that fractal or quantum spirituality. Fractals are vital to the rest of the End-Time programming, because it is what enables the individual to live in a logic-loop of delusion, keeping them hooked up to the spirit of the antichrist. These fractals connect the person to the spirit of the antichrist, creating points of entry — portals, gateways, doorways — through which the fallen can gain access to the person, as well as gain greater influence over the physical world.

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Like Religious programming and Fractal programming, this is not specific to End-Time programming, as it is also frequently used in trauma-based mind-control programming. However, Carousel programming is used within the Spirit Man programming to facilitate a switch between the so-called “spirit parts” of the individual.

We briefly discussed this type of programming in the section titled “Characteristics of Spirit Man Counseling.”

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Spirit Man Programming

This has been thoroughly discussed in the Spirit Man chapter, and is particularly made clear in the section titled, “Characteristics of Spirit Man Counseling,” so we will not rewrite that entire section. However, just to bring the point home, the Spirit Man programming is fueled by Fractal programming, and it is connecting the individual to the spirit of the antichrist. It is not the only way an individual can be connected to the spirit of the antichrist, of course, but it is one way.

Since the Spirit Man programming is becoming a huge part of some so-called “Christian deliverance counseling,” this, and related “theologies,” are bringing further deception and trauma to many people who are already suffering from trauma-related disorders and injuries.

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Seat of Dominion Programming

We have thoroughly discussed Seat of Dominion previously, so we won’t go into too much detail here. But to recap, this is a programming script that runs within the Spirit Man programming. This seat is programmed inside the spiritual space of a non-dissociative person, or the system of a dissociative person, a process that is facilitated by visualization, as well as a “deliverance coach or counselor” who is taking the individual through a particular conversation or series of conversations that are full of “suggestions,” or sometimes outright commands, to help the so-called spirit of the person “find and learn to engage” this seat within the spiritual space of the individual (or the system of a dissociative individual). Those who have dissociative disorders are more likely to be able to easily visualize this seat, and they are more vulnerable to suggestion or command. Sadly, these are the very people this “deliverance counseling” claims to help.

As we discussed earlier in “Reprogramming and Programming,” these suggestions or commands are acting as literal programming scripts because the individual is in a dissociative or semi-dissociative state when these suggestions or commands are being made (another term for these dissociative states is a “hypnotic state”). These suggestions or commands are aided by the imagination of the person (visualization) and by the demons that are already present. Once this “seat of dominion” is completely visualized and the so-called “spirit” of the person has taken control of the seat, the demons are able to control the individual through that seat, either by taking full control of it themselves, or by controlling the alter/s of the individual who has taken control of the seat. The latter is more common with those who have dissociative disorders, but can also be true for those who are not normally dissociative, because the Spirit Man counseling is causing and reinforcing dissociation.

Finding and engaging this “seat” is the occult equivalent of opening what they consider to be the third eye, as well as the crown chakra, or the head center, serving as a way through which people are opening the “spiritual centers” or “gateways” of their spiritual space to be connected to the demonic. Through this connection, the link to the spirit of the antichrist is made more secure, and it serves as a “portal” (or, gateway) for the demonic to enter into the individual and take total control, and to work through them to have greater influence within the world at large.


At this time, we, the authors, aren’t certain if “Gateways” is a program, or is simply an exercise that leads to or triggers other programming, such as Jesus and Angel programming. However, we have it listed here, as it is possible that it is a program that runs within the Spirit Man programming.

Regardless of whether this is a program or not, it is one process whereby the presumed “spirit” of the individual — in other words, a demonically controlled part of a person or a demon itself — is given the task to keep the individual under the influence of the demonic by keeping the “doorways” or “gateways” of the spiritual space inside the person open, so the demonic can freely enter. Since these two elements of programming are within this teaching — splitting off a “part” of a person (in this case, supposedly the “human spirit”) and giving that part a task — it is similar to a programming script. So for this reason, we have “Gateways” listed here as part of “End-Time Programming.”

Jesus Programming

Jesus programming can be latent (a “sleeper program”) that is awakened or intensified during the “deliverance counseling session.” This can be awakened in different ways, such as by “asking Jesus to come into the system” or “asking Jesus to go into the memory,” or by “giving Jesus the memory,” or by going through specific exercises, such as “Gateways.” Jesus Programming can also be a new type of programming that people open themselves up to through other programs, such as Angel or Spirit Man, or through specific exercises such as “Gateways.”

This programming is very important because it validates and solidifies the other programming, such as Spirit Man and Angel programming, encouraging the individual to live in a state of constant delusion. It keeps their focus away from a relationship with the Heavenly Father, by distracting the attention away from Him and His written Word (the Bible) and onto the fake Jesus that the individuals find themselves interacting with. This programming is also very important because it strengthens the Religious programming, which will, in turn, strengthen the other types of programming.

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Angel Programming

It’s not very unusual for an individual with DID, particularly those who have been programmed or gone through satanic/sadistic ritual abuse, to have alters who believe themselves to be angels, demons, animals, inanimate objects, or to even be dead. What is unusual, however, is for a counselor or coach to believe that his client has an alter that actually is a demon, an angel, an animal, an inanimate object, or is dead.”

That said, there is a difference between an alter who simply believes themselves to be an angel, and actual Angel programming. So while some alters have been programmed to believe themselves to be an angel, others just believe they are for many different reasons. Perhaps they were treated kindly and called “angel” by a parent or caregiver when they were doing what they were told to do, but when they did not comply properly with the demands of the parent or caregiver, they were beaten and called “devil.” This is just one of many possible examples of how an individual can be dissociative and have alters who believe themselves to be an angel (or a devil), but not have undergone “professional” mind-control programming.

But here, we are speaking about Angel programming as it relates to End-Time programming. There are three categories of this Angel programming, and they can be interrelated:

1. An alter of a dissociative individual has been previously programmed to believe themselves to be an angel. In regards to this End-Time programming, they will open the door for demons or fallen angels to come in, disguised as angels of God.

2. Angel programming can be triggered or inserted inside the system of a dissociative individual, opening the spiritual space inside that person for demons or fallen angels to come in, disguised as angels of God. As with all of the End-Time programming, this programming is facilitated by Fractal programming, and it can also be triggered by other programming, such as “Jesus Programming.” The spiritual space can be opened up and kept open by one or more of the following:

  • the individual themselves, through deception (such as in a “deliverance counseling” situation).
  • alters who have been programmed to perform this action.
  • demons who are in control of the Angel programming.
  • demons who are in control of the program that triggered the Angel program.

3. Angel programming can be inserted inside the spiritual space of a non-dissociative individual, opening that space for demons or fallen angels to enter, disguised as angels of God, to influence and control the individual. This is facilitated by the programming of fractal spirituality, and is most often inserted by demons as the individual themselves purposefully opens themselves to this invasion, usually to have a spiritual experience, or to receive a “personal angel.”

In some cases, Angel programming will work hand-in-hand with Jesus programming, as the “Jesus” will affirm to the individual that the spiritual being they are seeing is an angel of God. Angel programming also serves to satisfy the desire of the individual to have spiritual experiences, and the demons that are disguised as this angel will provide those spiritual experiences, aiding in occult abilities such as astral travel, or occult seer abilities. Ultimately, Angel programming keeps the individual from focusing on a relationship with God, as they seek after interaction and guidance from the “angel,” rather than being guided by the Holy Spirit.

For those who are dissociative, they may have alters that have been previously set in place who have been programmed to be triggered by Angel programming. When the Angel programming is triggered, those alters who are triggered by that program will believe themselves to be an angel. This can then trigger occult alters to come out. Or, if these “angel” alters were previously keeping the occult alters hidden, they can be triggered to allow those occult alters to come out. Those occult alters can keep the door open to the system for demons (disguised as angels) to invade the system and to invade the spiritual space inside the person. At the same time, the angel alters can greatly influence the individual to have constant interaction with those “angels” that are coming in (demons in disguise), as well as the occult alters who may be disguised as something that is good and helpful. These angel alters can also influence the person to be open to all the spiritual experiences the other “angels” (demons) are offering.

While these types of alters who have been programmed and triggered by the Angel programming can bring great pain and deception to the person themselves, they can also be very helpful in the healing process once they realize they have been deceived and have been manipulated through demonic programming. The reason for this is because usually they ultimately believe they are doing the work of God and are helping, not hurting. Once they realize they are unintentionally bringing pain, however, after a period of healing and re-orienting themselves, they are likely to be very adamant in protecting the internal world, and in helping to facilitate a true healing process.

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Dragon Programming

This is called “Dragon Programming” because it is representative of the “dragon” that protects the spirit of the antichrist, and it is in place to oversee the rest of the End-Time programming over the entire network of individuals who have been connected to the spirit of the antichrist. It can be thought of as an “umbrella program” that is created by and run by the demonic, overseeing all the elements of End-Time programming, making sure they are working according to plan within each individual.

People who have been programmed with End-Time programming will have the Dragon programming, although the person may or may not actually see or sense the dragon spirit. If they are aware of the dragon, however, they may find themselves having troubling nightmares of dragons, being spiritually attacked by a dragon, or even during waking hours, begin seeing the shadow of a dragon passing overhead. The shadow will not have a light source that is causing it to appear, and it will often pass overheard when the individual is indoors, making it impossible for it to be mistaken as the shadow of a large, misshapen bird in the physical.

Please understand, this is not an actual dragon, as in, dragons from fairy tales or mythology. These attacks or manifestations are occurring because of End-Time Dragon programming. The “dragon” is a type of demonic entity that protects the spirit of the antichrist, and under certain circumstances, can take on the appearance of a dragon.

The author of this programming does not come from humans, but from Satan, and for this reason, people can be programmed with the Dragon programming without having gone through any type of mind-control programming. Although in professional mind-control situations, human assistance can be used to place this program inside the victims of such programming. Likewise, this program does not have to intentionally be triggered or placed inside of an individual who is going through a “deliverance counseling” situation for it to be present.

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II. Finding Freedom

This chapter is dedicated to finding freedom from programming that is connecting people to the spirit of the antichrist, and freedom from the control and influence of the demonic, in particular, the fallen angels. But the points in this chapter are basic, and can be used as a general outline on finding freedom and healing from a myriad of spiritual issues.

Please Note: in this chapter, we are not trying to say that rebuking demons in Jesus name “does not work” and that you need something more powerful. In the situations we are addressing in this chapter, we are speaking of people who have many open doorways for the demonic to come in and influence and control, and for those who are dissociative, they may be dealing with alters keeping those doorways open and they don’t even realize it. We are also speaking of programming that is being held in place by the demonic, and closing these doorways and getting rid of programming takes time. Furthermore, there are many verses in the Bible that explain to us how to find freedom and keep our freedom from demonic influence. It is not just a cut-and-dried, “Get behind me Satan” one-time thing. In fact, we don’t know of anyone who has ever had to rebuke a demon or the fallen only once and then was never harassed or bothered again. That is simply not sound Biblical theology. This is an ongoing battle that each of us must fight, not a one-time deal and we’re done.

Some Scriptures for contemplation:

“Submit yourselves therefore to God. Resist the devil, and he will flee from you. Draw nigh to God, and he will draw nigh to you. Cleanse your hands, ye sinners; and purify your hearts, ye double minded. Be afflicted, and mourn, and weep: let your laughter be turned to mourning, and your joy to heaviness. Humble yourselves in the sight of the Lord, and he shall lift you up.”

James 4:7-10 (KJV)

“(A)nd every spirit that does not confess Jesus is not from God. This is the spirit of the antichrist, which you have heard is coming, and is already in the world at this time. You, little children, are from God and have overcome them, because greater is He who is in you than he who is in the world.” (emphasis added)

1 John 4:3-4 (BSB)

The basic process of finding freedom from programming and finding freedom and deliverance from the control and influence of the demonic, including fallen angels, is pretty much the same. It can be very difficult to stand against the magnetic glamour of the fallen, and sometimes the process of getting rid of programming can feel overwhelming or complicated. But the process is actually relatively simple, although not necessarily quick. The secret is this: a relationship with your Heavenly Father.

There can be a difference, however, in how the process goes for a non-dissociative person versus an individual who is dissociative, depending upon the intensity and degree of dissociation. Although both groups of people (dissociative and non-dissociative) will find each section helpful (and we hope both groups take the time to read both sections), we will address the issues one at a time, beginning with how the average, non-dissociative person can find freedom.

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A. For The Non-Dissociative Individual

The way programming affects the non-dissociative individual may be different than the way programming affects the dissociative individual. Since we, the authors, don’t have experience being non-dissociative, we can’t say for certain. However, if you, as a non-dissociative individual, have opened yourself up to the deception of the Spirit Man programming — or the related “Seat of Dominion” or “Gateways” — you have fragmented yourself. First, by splitting away your spirit/soul from the rest of you; second, by splitting that part of you into several different parts. Therefore, the fractal programming that the Spirit Man programming is based upon will likely affect you the same way it will a dissociative individual. However, finding freedom may be a shorter process for you if there aren’t as many deeply rooted trauma-related issues (such as PTSD, attachment injuries, et cetera) as there are for someone who has a dissociative disorder.

What This is Not

The following list is not a step-by-step “magical formula or spell” that you need to follow religiously and fanatically in order to find freedom. This is not a how-to that details the incantations you need to chant or the rites you need to perform in order to find freedom. These steps are not describing the process on how to order God, angels, or demons about.

What This Is

These steps are suggestions on how to begin building a relationship with God, and from there, you will find freedom from the demonic and from programming. You should not expect to follow these steps in a linear fashion and then toss them aside when you “feel better.” You will need to continually work on confession, repentance, submission, healing, faith, obedience, and humbleness. You will continually need to focus on your Heavenly Father. These aren’t one-time events, but a way of life. This is about learning to live a Godly, Christian lifestyle.

Step One

CONFESS your rebellion against God.

This is the first step, because if you can’t recognize where you have gone wrong — if you can’t see where you have opened yourself up to the influence of the demonic and opened yourself up to be influenced by the programming — you will see no need for repentance, therefore you will not repent, and you will never find true freedom.

If you aren’t sure whether you have fallen into the trap of programming or have fallen prey to the influence of fallen angels or demons, simply ask God to show you if you have. If He shows you that you have, don’t argue against or try to reason your way out of what He tells you. Just confess and go to the next step: repentance.

Step Two

REPENT, and ask Him to forgive you.

Repentance has several different meanings within the Bible, but some of them include: to feel remorse; to change one’s mind or purpose; to turn away from or to turn unto.(1) For true change and freedom to take place, it is not enough to simply feel remorse. You must turn away from that which is against your Heavenly Father, and turn towards Him. It doesn’t matter if you were in rebellion to God because you were deceived into allowing the demonic to control you or use you, or if you consciously and knowingly rebelled against Him. The important thing is to repent for being out of line with His will and out of line with His Word.

If you feel there is a resistance to repentance, ask Him to help you repent. There may be demonic attachments or influences that are preventing you from repenting, but your Heavenly Father can and will remove the barriers if you ask Him.

There is one major barrier that has the tendency to keep us from moving on to the next step of repentance, or to keep us stuck at repentance: condemnation. Sometimes we feel so remorseful and ashamed at what we have done, we are unable to approach our Heavenly Father and repent. This is a trick and a lie from Satan, and it is purposeful to keep you away from your Heavenly Father, who is the only One who can forgive you and heal you. Here are three Scriptures for you to contemplate:

1 John 1:9 — “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.” (BSB)

Romans 8:1 — “Therefore there is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.” (BSB)

1 Corinthians 11:32 — “But when we are judged by the Lord, we are being disciplined so that we will not be condemned with the world.” (BSB)

Because of Jesus Christ, you have the ability to go — in fact, the privilege and honor of going — to the Father and confess your sins. This is not accomplished on your merit, but you are able to do this through Christ Jesus. Therefore,once you confess your sin, there is no condemnation when you stand before the Father. Yes, you are coming under God’s judgement, but this judgement is for your eternal good, and it is nothing to fear at that time. You should not fear coming under His judgement now, while you are able to do so of your own free will; but rather, you should fear waiting until it’s too late to submit to His righteous judgement on your own free will.

So do not allow Satan to prey on your emotions of shame and guilt, and cause you to feel condemned. This keeps you from God. Rather, go to Him in faith, knowing that because of Jesus Christ, if you confess and repent He will forgive you and cleanse you from your unrighteousness, clothing you once again in the righteousness of Jesus Christ.

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Step Three

SUBMIT to God.

This is as simple as saying, “Heavenly Father, I submit to Your will.” As with repenting, if you do not feel like submitting to God, ask Him to help you submit. Do not allow condemnation to grab ahold of you and prevent you from submitting. Just submit to Him, and continue to submit to Him every single day, even if, at first, it is only a submission by faith.

This submission is also similar to “renunciation,” a term that you may be familiar with.

Renunciation means “an act or instance of relinquishing, abandoning, repudiating, or sacrificing something, as a right, title, person, or ambition.”(2) So while you relinquish and abandon your sin and your involvement with the things of the occult, at the same time, you are relinquishing your will to the will of your Heavenly Father. You are sacrificing and abandoning the rights you have taken to have control over your own life and your own ambitions, and giving those things to your Heavenly Father. Both of these operations surrounding the action of renunciation go hand-in-hand. You cannot renounce your ties to the occult without also renouncing your own will to do what you please. You must surrender to the will of your Heavenly Father — submit to Him — otherwise renouncing your occult ties will be of no use.

Step Four

ASK God to heal you.

This is a process that may involve different things for different people, depending upon how deeply you were involved in witchcraft and how deeply the programming affected you. The things that you may need to ask of your Heavenly Father are:

  1. Integrate the parts of you that you purposefully split off and split apart.

  2. Cleanse you from the demonic influence and control, including the fallen.

  3. Cut off the access the demonic and the fallen have to you by closing the spiritual space — “gateways,” if you will — that you have left wide open for the demonic to enter.

  4. To free you from the programming and to set you free from the spirit of the antichrist. You may word this however you see fit. You may ask God to “unplug you” from the spirit of the antichrist, or to “cut the cords or ties” that are connecting you to the spirit of the antichrist through the programming. It doesn’t matter how you word it. There are no “magic words.” Just ask your Heavenly Father to set you free.

As we’ve written about in this entire book, there are many people involved in a type of “white magic” Christian witchcraft that will give you all sorts of “special prayers” to pray in order to cut off access from the demonic. We hope that by the time you have read this far in this book, you will not do that. Stop making things so complicated! Don’t worry so much about if you are “saying it right.” There are no “magic words,” or some words that are more powerful than other words. Power is found through Jesus Christ; not through finding the proper sequence of “power words.” The wisdom of God can be found in the simple things. Just continually humble yourself before Him and ask Him to set you free of any problems you have.

This will take time and it likely won’t always be easy, but allow God to work the healing in you by giving Him full control, and it will happen.

Step Five

Walk by FAITH and in OBEDIENCE to His Word.

Walking by faith involves trusting that God is in the process of setting you free, no matter how you may or may not feel. It involves trusting Him enough to walk with Him, even if He leads you into uncomfortable or scary places. It involves being obedient to His Word, regardless of how you feel.

Faith always involves trust, because we can’t have faith in someone that we do not trust, so if you don’t trust God, don’t worry. A lot of people don’t trust God, even though not many like to admit this. If you can’t guess by now, the solution to your problem of not trusting your Heavenly Father is to ask Him to help you trust Him. And ironically enough, you may find the answer to not trusting Him is for you to walk in obedience to His Word, regardless of how you feel.

Obedience required submission to His authority, and if you are having problems submitting, ask Him to help you submit to His authority.

I hope you are understanding by this point just how simple it really is. You have a problem? Welcome to a special club called “Humanity.” Who has the answer? Our Heavenly Father. How do we get the answer? We ask our Heavenly Father. How do we know the answer truly is from Him, and not a trick of the enemy? We go to His written Word. What if we don’t see the answer or don’t feel as if our prayer has been answered? We keep praying, keep asking, and walk by faith, keeping our focus on Him and on building a relationship with Him. Sometimes the answer we ask for is not the answer God knows we need. Trust Him to provide what you need, and walk by faith that He will supply that need.

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Step Six


This involves daily walking in repentance and submission to your Heavenly Father. He can’t and won’t work with pride, so there will always be a need for you to continually confess, repent, and submit to Him. Why? Because you are human and you will make mistakes. You are susceptible, like every other human being, to being deceived. Recognize this and stay humbled before God.

The ironic thing about humility is that once you start to focus on “being humble,” you’ve lost it. So how do you stay humble? By focusing on the majesty and power of your Creator and submitting to Him. Don’t focus on trying to “be humble,” but focus on the One who causes us to be humbled.

Step Seven

FOCUS on God.

This point has been talked about in nearly every other point in this list, but as you continue (or begin) to focus on your Heavenly Father and your relationship with Him, you may find yourself needing to do some of the following:

  1. “Fast” from listening to other people talk about religious or Biblical matters. This is particularly important if you have been listening to people who are feeding you false doctrine. Stop allowing other people to tell you what God is saying and what He means, and find out for yourself.

  2. If you are going to a church that is teaching false doctrine, you may want to think about taking a break from church-going for a while. This is especially important if you are attending a church that is teaching doctrine of demons. The more you immerse yourself in false doctrine, the more it affects you. Take yourself out of toxic, ungodly, Satanic environments.

  3. Stop listening to internet preachers; stop tuning into television priests; stop talking to Facebook prophets; stop watching YouTube clergy. Start talking to and listening to your Heavenly Father.

  4. Take a “fast” from reading the Bible.

  5. Stop praying to and talking with Jesus.

Okay, we know those last two points probably got to you. No, we haven’t gone off the deep end. No, we are not spouting off heretical or blasphemous drivel. But yes, you read correctly: we have just made the suggestion to take a break from reading the Bible, and to stop talking to Jesus. Before your mind explodes and you throw this book out, take a deep breath and relax. If you need to take a moment to pick up your jaw from off the floor, we understand. Once you have collected yourself, please continue reading and allow us to explain, because these last two suggestions are very important to your continued healing and freedom.

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Stop Reading and Start Studying

There are many topics we have discussed in this book that are common charismatic activities disguised as “Christian” activities, that are actually opening you up to demonic possession and control, programming you, and connecting you to the spirit of the antichrist. Confession, repentance, submission, healing, faith, obedience, and walking in humbleness are things you need to do, but you also need to break the programming.

So why have we suggested you take a fast from reading the Bible? To starve the Religious programming, both trauma-based programming and general programming. If you are reading the Bible through the religious spirit you have been programmed with, you are not going to be able to read the Bible with understanding. You are reading through the filter of the religious programming, and the Bible will simply be a religious book you read that gives reinforcement to the lies you have believed. The false doctrine you have lived under, and have wholeheartedly believed and defended as truth, will continue to be reinforced by your misunderstanding and misinterpretation of Scripture.

Think of the analogy of driving: you may know how to drive (the mechanics of driving, if you will), but if you have been blindfolded, you can’t see where you are going and you will crash. It’s the same with reading the Word of God: if your eyes of understanding have not been opened, you are blind to the truth found within the Word of God.

What to do instead? First, get back to basics, which is your relationship with God. Allow God to open the eyes of your understanding by first focusing on a relationship with Him. As you focus on Him, you will begin to want to know what He has to say about certain things. That will lead you to His Word. When you get to this point, don’t just start reading the Bible. Start studying His Word. There are dozens of free applications that can be downloaded from the internet, or found free to study online, that will help you in your studies, so not having the books in your personal library isn’t an excuse. Become a student of the Word of God by learning to rightly divide His Word. This means learning to properly interpret the words found in the Bible. Here are some very basic pointers:

  1. Read in context. Think: exegesis and not eisegesis.(3)

  2. Do word studies.

    Find out what the words really mean. It takes practice. At first, you may spend all your free-time in a single day on a solitary passage, trying to find out the specific meanings behind the words in that passage, and learning about the context behind that passage. That’s okay. That’s a good thing! Keep studying, knowing that understanding builds upon understanding

  3. Ask God to help you understand what you are studying.

    John 16:13 promises us that the Spirit of God will lead us to the truth. This is why it’s important to not go off on your own understanding of Scripture, but to keep your main focus on your Heavenly Father, and He, through His Spirit, will lead you into understanding the truth.

  4. If you have been focusing on your relationship with God, it’s very likely that He has already placed a passage of Scripture on your heart where you can begin your studies. However, here are a couple of suggestions:

    1. If you are like most of us who have come out of religious environments, you’ve been marinating for years in the junk that is coming from false teachers and false prophets. Therefore, we suggest you initially stay away from most of what are considered to be “prophetic” passages in the Bible. Save that for when you have your foundation properly laid. Get back to the basics of the gospel of Jesus Christ.

    2. If you still don’t know where to start your word study, you may want to begin with the words of Jesus. By doing cross-referencing, this will lead you all over the Bible as you study what the words mean.

Focus on Your Heavenly Father

If you have not been affected by Jesus programming, this section may not apply to you. However, if you have been affected by this programming, you are not praying to the true Jesus, but to a demonic entity holding that Jesus programming. If you are dissociative, the “Jesus” might be a demonically-controlled alter who is taking the role of “Jesus.” So the quickest and most effective way to get rid of that programming is to simply cut off the access it has to you: stop talking to “Jesus.”

We are not, however, suggesting that you throw away your relationship with God. Follow the example of the true Jesus Christ and start talking to your Heavenly Father. It is because of Jesus Christ that you have that privilege! He is the One who has made it possible for you to have free and open communication between you and the Father! Jesus Christ is your High Priest, He is your Intercessor, He is your Interceder; you no longer need a human mediator to pass information from God to you, because Jesus Christ is the Final Mediator. So follow His example as outlined throughout the Gospels, and pray to the Heavenly Father, with the assurance that He hears your prayers and will answer you directly because of the sacrifice of Jesus Christ.

Studying the Word of God, rather than just reading it, will weaken and eventually break the Religious programming, both trauma-based and general. And when you shift your focus on your Heavenly Father, this will break the power the Jesus programming has over you. Once these two programs are dissolved, the strength of the other programs is drastically weakened. Over time, as you continue to submit to your Heavenly Father and focus on Him, they will completely fall away. The process may take longer, depending upon many factors, including how deeply you were involved in “Christian” witchcraft, and how dissociative you are or have been. But getting rid of these two programs in particular — the Religious programming and the Jesus programming — is of paramount importance to your continued healing.

Angels Are Not Your Personal Spirit Guide

The Holy Spirit is our Guide who leads us into all truth, not angels. Following the example of how to break the power of the Religious and Jesus programming, you can do the same for the Angel programming: stop feeding it!

We recognize that there are certain factors that can make this more difficult, including dissociative disorders. Furthermore, if there are fallen angels involved in this type of situation, it can be much more difficult to find freedom. However, continue to submit to your Heavenly Father and focus on Him, and He will set you free. This holds true for any programming to which you may have fallen victim.

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B. For the Dissociative Individual

(Please refer to our disclaimers)

  • Please Note: As you read through this section, please keep in mind the audience and the context:

    Audience: We are speaking to dissociative individuals who have been deceived by and programmed through the fractal spirituality that is present in the charismatic teachings discussed in this book, and to those who have been used by the demonic in various ways, including the fallen angels.

    Context: We are speaking of finding freedom from the fractal or quantum programming in End-Time programming, and freedom from allowing fallen angels and the demonic to influence and control individuals who are dissociative. We are not speaking of the general issues surrounding dissociation, such as working through trauma and attachment injuries due to prolonged physical, sexual, or psychological abuse.

The process for the dissociative individual to find freedom from the fractal, End-Time programming and from the control and influence of the demonic follows the same steps as outlined in the previous section. However, the process can be a bit more involved, depending upon how dissociative you still are. So although we hope you are able to read through the above section, as it is foundational to the points we are making in this section, we do have a few additional points that may be more pertinent to you.

Although the process of finding freedom for both dissociative and non-dissociative people is similar, as someone who is dissociative, it may take you longer to find a complete freedom from all the programming that is connecting you to the spirit of the antichrist, and to find complete freedom from the control and influence of the fallen and demonic. There are at least three chief reasons why this is true.

  1. First, very often, because of very traumatic emotional and spiritual injuries, we who struggle with various types of dissociative disorders, have a tendency to heap abuse on our own selves. This can keep us from healing and finding freedom. We often take much or all of the blame for things that may not even be our fault, and we have many struggles with condemnation and self-hatred of the things that are our fault — or, at least, partially our fault, or things we imagine to be our fault, but actually aren’t. We spoke at length about overcoming condemnation in the above section, so we will not rehash here; but since we understand that this can be a huge problem for those who are dissociative, we want to take the time to once again encourage you to not allow false guilt or condemnation keep you from having a relationship with your Heavenly Father. Condemnation will prevent you from finding complete freedom, so ask God to help you and all your parts to overcome and not be affected by condemnation.

  2. Second, very often, many of the words surrounding the very things that will bring us freedom and healing are triggering. Certain religious words can have a hugely negative effect, often because of religious programming, either general or professional. This can be very difficult to overcome. However, ask your Heavenly Father to bring you understanding, and over time, His Spirit will help you overcome these triggers and come to a true understanding of the basic principles behind finding freedom and healing. As you find more healing, doing word studies of specific Scriptures will be able to help you overcome the last of those specific triggers that are caused by religious programming.

  3. Third, there may be parts of you who are against the Father. If so, it’s very likely that their identity is wrapped up in the purpose and job they have been given from self or others that originates not from God, but from Satan. They may see you as the enemy, trying to take away their identity and purpose by taking away their job, and they may feel either apathetic towards God or hostile towards Him. Working through all these things takes time — sometimes a lot of time — and that is okay. With God, nothing is impossible, and He is patient and loving, and will take all the time that needs to be taken to set every part of you free. Ask and believe God to bring healing to all of you, and as you begin to focus on your relationship with your Heavenly Father, His Spirit will work healing in you.

In finding freedom, follow the same steps as outlined for non-dissociative individuals, but with the understanding that if you have alters, you will need to pray to God on behalf of every part of you.

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Step One

CONFESS the rebellion against your Heavenly Father, REPENT, and ASK Him to forgive you.

Trigger Alert: if you are triggered by the words “confess, rebellion, or repent,” we absolutely understand. These are words often used to beat us into submission to people who are hateful, repulsive, extremely abusive, and ungodly. We are not speaking of that kind of confession, rebellion, or repentance, however. That is an ungodly thing. We are speaking of the true confession and repentance that comes from God, and this type of confession and repentance is for your healing. In order to break the programming that may be preventing you from understanding what these words really mean, it might be helpful for you to allow yourself to feel those angry, triggering emotions and to holler out these bolded words: confession and repentance is for my healing, not my condemnation!

You might also want to holler out the following list:

  • Confession and repentance does not mean that I have to put myself under ungodly and abusive authority.
  • Confessing and repenting does not mean that the people who forced me to do things against God are getting off the hook.
  • Confessing and repenting does not mean it was okay for people to force me into doing things against God.
  • Confessing and repenting does not mean that I am taking the blame and shouldering the responsibility for doing things that I had no choice but to do at that time, or were ignorant of.
  • Confessing and repenting does not mean I am under condemnation.
  • Confessing and repenting is for my healing, not my condemnation!

In finding freedom from the deceptions we have outlined in this book, it is very important to have a Godly understanding on what confessing and repenting means. Therefore, even though you feel as if you were duped and tricked into coming into alignment with the spirit of the antichrist, or duped and tricked into opening doorways for the demonic to influence and control you, for the purposes of finding freedom and finding healing, this does not matter. Confession and repentance simply means that you are acknowledging that no matter the surrounding circumstances and complications, it happened, it was wrong, and it was against God. Confessing and repenting of this is very important, because with confession and repentance comes the beginning of healing and freedom.

Confession and repentance breaks the power sin has over you, and frees you from bondage to Satan!

You will find that confession and repentance will help with many issues you may have in your life — the very issues, in fact, that may have caused you to start looking in the direction of “deliverance counseling” in the first place! And in working through healing from the deceptions you have fallen under with these doctrines of demons, God may open up more areas in your life that He wants to heal you from. You may find that you need to repent for things you may have had no choice but to do, or did not know there was a different way.

But keep in mind: confession and repentance breaks the power that sin has over you, and begins to set you free!

Until the truth of what you were forced to be involved in, or were deceived and tricked into being a part of, is out in the open, and until you can acknowledge that truth, you will never find freedom or healing from the effects of what took place. So when you confess and repent, the connections you — and every part of you — have to those things will begin to loosen and break away from you.

Confession and repentance is for your healing, not your condemnation!

There will likely be much resistance to confession and repentance from certain parts of you.

First of all, the triggers behind the action of “repenting and confessing” can be difficult to overcome. We hope and pray that this chapter will help you begin to overcome that.

Second, it’s not unusual for there to be parts of you who do not want to give up their purpose and identity. So there will likely be a lot of confession and repentance by faith on your part, and you will probably have to confess and repent multiple times, as the emotions and thoughts and desires of the multiple parts of you come to the surface. This is okay, and it’s normal for those who are dissociative. It can be difficult to work through, but continue to keep your focus on your Heavenly Father, and allow Him to heal you by continuing to confess and repent as issues come up in your life and within your internal system.

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Step Two

SUBMIT to God.

Trigger Alert: If you are triggered by the word “submit,” we completely understand. This word can be used, along with Scripture that has been horribly twisted out of context, to force a submission to ungodly, evil, abusive people, who only want to harm you and hurt you. That kind of submission is not of God, and it is not Scriptural.

Once again, in order to break the programming that may be preventing you from understanding what this word really means, it might be helpful for you to allow yourself to feel those angry, triggering emotions concerning this word, and holler out the following words:

Submission to the true God eliminates the power that fear has over me. The true God loves me and wants good for my life, and when I submit to Him, I am yielding to His plan for my life. Submission to the true God is for my healing.

You may also want to remind yourself — and all of you — that submission to the true God is not submitting to abusive people or to an abusive false god.

Overcoming this trigger, like all the others, is not easy, but once you do, the actual action of submitting to God is very easy, once you get used to it. It can be a very freeing experience! It doesn’t feel “helpless” at all, but it is a very empowering feeling, knowing that no matter what happens in your life, you have allowed God to take control and have yielded to His plan for your life.

Submitting to God eliminates the power that fear has over you.

As with anyone who is dissociative knows, you will likely need to submit to God by faith, and ask Him to help all of you — the frightened parts, the very hurt parts of you, the apathetic parts, the angry parts — to submit to Him. So you may need to say something along the lines of, “Heavenly Father, I submit to Your will, and I also submit every part of me to Your will, as well.”

This process may take a long time. In fact, you should expect this to be a daily thing for the rest of your life (this should be a daily thing for everyone, whether they are dissociative or not), and the more you submit to God, even a submission by faith, you will find it gets easier, and it is something that brings you more and more joy every time you do it. This will be especially true when the parts of you on the inside begin to come under submission to God. Once they see the joy and peace you are achieving from being submitted to His will, chances are, they will begin to come around a lot quicker than before.

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Step Three

ASK God to break the programming and to cut off the access.

Ask your Heavenly Father to cut off the access you and your parts have given to the demonic spirits and fallen angels, and ask Him to set you and your parts free from the programming that is connecting you to the spirit of the antichrist.

This will take time. Although it’s possible you may feel a certain amount of relief rather quickly as the demonic loosen their grip, or as the programming begins to be destroyed, don’t expect there to be results that change everything and sets it all right instantaneously or overnight. This is particularly true if you or the parts of you are working through backlash or withdrawals. Remember there are many layers of you to work through. Healing is a journey, not a destination, and freedom is found one day at a time. Allow God to work the healing in you by consciously and by faith giving Him full control every day, and it will happen.

Is it possible that there is instant complete relief? Sure, anything is possible, and it may be possible that the fewer parts you have and the more co-conscious you are with those parts, the quicker the process may be. But don’t be surprised if this is an ongoing battle for you, at least for the shorter term.

What you should expect, likely, is that there may be those parts of you who will not want access to be cut. They may or may not be very loud about it internally, but they will likely be very stubborn and refuse to give up that connection. Don’t worry about this. Keep focused on your Heavenly Father and your relationship with Him, continue asking Him to cut off the access, and continue asking Him to change every part of your heart. Ask the Father to show the parts of you that they have an identity and a purpose with Him that is better than anything anyone else has to offer. With time, as you receive more healing to the parts of you, those parts will give up their connection to the spirit of the antichrist and to the fallen angels.

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Step Four

Walk by FAITH.

This involves trust in your Heavenly Father, and believing that He is in the process of setting you free. If you don’t trust Him, don’t worry. This is normal, particularly for those who are dissociative. Your Heavenly Father understands about the trauma injuries and attachment disorders you have, and why you have them. He understands your pain and confusion. He is patient. Just ask Him to help you and every part of you learn to trust Him, and over time, you will see that He is helping you. Walk by faith every single day, resting in the knowledge that the Father is working on the parts of you that need to let go of the demonic ties that are keeping you bound, and that He is bringing you healing, one day at a time.

Step Five


Trigger Alert: if you are triggered by the word “humble,” we completely understand. Often, this word has been used against us, to force us into taking the nasty junk that abusive, hateful people want to heap on us, and because we are supposed to be “humble,” it means that we take their junk without ever saying anything against it in either our defense, or in the defense of others. But this is an ungodly view on living humbly. In order to break the programming that may be preventing you from understanding what this word really means, it might be helpful for you to allow yourself to feel those angry, triggering emotions concerning this word, and holler out the following words:

Living humbly before the true God is allowing Him to do the healing work for me. Living humbly before the true God is empowering and is for my healing.

You also may need to remind yourself — and all of you — that living humbly before the true God does not mean putting up with abusive people and abusive situations.

Living humbly actually involves being brutally honest with yourself and with God, and admitting that you need His help to overcome. You don’t have to be angry at any feelings of helplessness you have during this process of breaking free from programming and of struggling to repent and submit to God. It’s okay to be humble enough to admit that you can’t do the work that needs to be done on the inside of you, because if you are like us, it’s probably a lot of work! As you focus on your relationship with your Heavenly Father, you and every part of you will begin to realize that He wants to help you overcome. Humble yourself before Him and allow Him to do the work for you.

Living humbly also involves not beating yourself up when you make mistakes, because you are human, like everyone else, and you will make mistakes. Allow yourself the space and freedom to not be perfect. Try to not be impatient with yourself and the parts of you who are refusing to submit to God, or refusing to give up their job or position working for Satan. This entire process takes patience, which is impossible without humbling yourself to that process.

Related to this thought, living humbly also involves being brutally honest with yourself and with God about how you actually feel about Him. So many of us who have deep trauma injuries harbor angry, hateful thoughts towards God for many different reasons, but we never express those thoughts to Him for a variety of reasons. But the truth is, He already knows your thoughts. So get them all out in the open. Unburden your heart, and tell Him how you really feel, so that He can express to you, through His Holy Spirit, the truth about His intentions and about His plan for your life. You may be surprised at how honesty with your Creator will begin a healing work in you.

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Step Six

FOCUS on God.

Above all, continue (or begin) to focus on your Heavenly Father and on your relationship with Him. This is the most important thing that you can do in your entire life. He is your Healer and He is the Wonderful Counselor.

The same as what applies to non-dissociative people applies to you, too: as you continue (or begin) to focus on your Heavenly Father and your relationship with Him, you will find healing and freedom.

In order to completely rid yourself of this type of fractal programming that is found within fractal spirituality, you will need to take a break from the same things, too, including:

  1. Take a break from listening to other people talk about religious or Biblical matters. This is particularly important if you have been listening to people who are feeding you false doctrine. Find out for yourself what God is saying.

  2. If you go to a church that is teaching false doctrine, stop going.

  3. Take a break from listening to internet preachers, television priests, Facebook prophets, or YouTube clergy. Start talking to and listening to your Heavenly Father.

  4. Take a break from reading the Bible. Learn instead to study the Word of God as opposed to simply reading. Find out what the Bible really means. (For more detail, read the above section titled, “Stop Reading and Start Studying.”)

  5. Stop talking to or interacting with Jesus. Since Jesus programming is very deceptive, cut off the access it has to you by not focusing on “Jesus.” Instead, follow the example of the true Jesus Christ, and pray to your Heavenly Father. (You can read more detail about this topic in the above section, “Focus on Your Heavenly Father.”)

  6. Stop talking to or interacting with angels. Angel programming can also be very deceptive, but the business of having a relationship with angels is not of God. So in order to delete much of the angel programming, stop interacting and talking to them. This can be much more difficult in certain situations, especially for those who are dissociative, and this is touched on in the next chapter, “Additional Points about Resisting and Finding Freedom from the Fallen.”

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III. Additional Points About Resisting and Finding Freedom from the Fallen

This chapter is dedicated mainly to those who are dissociative; however, if you are not dissociative, you may find it relates to you as well.

Because of their glamour, it can be more difficult to extract oneself from the influence of the fallen angels, and we would dare to say that it is even more difficult for those who are dissociative. And if you are one of the programmed individuals who has been trained from an early age to interact with the fallen angels in various ways, the process can be even more difficult.

However, with God, nothing is impossible.

So since, in our experience, this is a more difficult situation to find freedom from, we’d like to take a moment to address the importance of continuing to submit to God in this area of your life.

Regardless of how much you are sincerely trying to resist, you may very well find yourself feeling some of the following emotions concerning the fallen, particularly if you or parts of you have been groomed to interact with them:

  • Desire for the things they have offered to you
    • For example: prestige, position, fulfillment, et cetera.
    • This can be related to identity and purpose in life. These are two very powerful forces that have a lot of emotion driving them, particularly if that identity and purpose has been wrapped up in the fallen angels.
  • Love and a desire to be in their presence again.
    • This can be sexual desire, but more so, it is a deep-rooted feeling of having completeness and fulfillment. Even though this is the trick of their glamour, it can feel very real.
  • If you were sent on assignments with the fallen, you may feel a sense of loss over the excitement of those assignments.
    • This also can be related to identity and purpose.

These are very real human emotions, and the fallen angels take advantage of us through our emotion. Pride or shame (condemnation) can often get in the way of confessing our emotions to our Heavenly Father, so we can easily become trapped in an emotional cycle that allows the fallen to continue to prey on us through the feelings that we refuse to admit. So in an effort to help stop this cycle, let us remind you of something: your Heavenly Father already knows your heart and He knows your every thought. If you are struggling with these emotions and desires, He already knows. He is waiting for you to confess them to Him, so that you can begin to find freedom and healing.

The steps outlined in the above chapter, “Finding Freedom,” are very important exercises to continue practicing, even if (or when) your human emotions get the best of you. Especially if or when your human emotions get the best of you! Don’t allow condemnation, guilt, shame, or pride keep you away from your Heavenly Father. That is what the fallen want, and they will manipulate you through your emotions, which will be effective in keeping you away from God if you permit this to happen. Therefore, by admitting your emotions and confessing them to your Heavenly Father, you are breaking the power your feelings have over you.

Confess, repent, submit, and repeat this process, over and over again, as long as it takes. Continue to ask God to cut off the access the fallen have to you and the parts of you. Walk by faith, trusting that God is setting you free in spite of your emotions that are being used by the fallen to manipulate you. Live humbly, recognizing that you can’t win this battle on your own — you need God to fight this battle for you.

We can find hope and peace in the following passage:

“So to keep me from becoming conceited, I was given a thorn in my flesh, a messenger of Satan, to torment me. Three times I pleaded with the Lord to take it away from me. But He said to me, “My grace is sufficient for you, for My power is perfected in weakness.” Therefore I will boast all the more gladly in my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ may rest on me. That is why, for the sake of Christ, I delight in weaknesses, in insults, in hardships, in persecutions, in difficulties. For when I am weak, then I am strong.”

2 Corinthians 12: 7-10 (BSB)

Although there is some squabbling amongst many theologians about what the word “messenger of Satan” means — whether it was a sickness or a fallen angel — the point is that the grace of God is sufficient for us. In our weakness, we find strength, because we are leaning on our Heavenly Father for our strength, and His strength is greater than ours.

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IV. Backlash

This chapter is not to bring fear, but to simply explain what can be expected after you renounce being in unity with the spirit of the antichrist, and as you renounce and cut the ties with the demonic and the fallen angels. This is not to say the following are the only sorts of attacks you can expect, as there are likely other difficulties you may experience. Nor are we saying these specific attacks are to always be expected. But if you do experience these things, understand it’s not unusual. And always remember: it’s nothing that God can’t handle. God is greater than Satan. Submit to God, resist the devil, and he will flee. Attacks will come whether you are doing what is right or whether you are doing what is wrong; however, the important thing is not focusing on the attacks, but on focusing on the true God, Who is your Protector and Defender, and on your relationship with Him. Humble yourself before your Heavenly Father, focus on Him, learn to trust Him, and when the attacks come (and they will), you will not be so greatly affected. The demonic attacks will have no more power over you, because your focus is in the right place.

The Basic Reasons for Backlash

Many people experience a type of backlash when they disconnect themselves from or take themselves out of alignment (agreement) with Satan’s agenda. This backlash often comes from two fronts simultaneously: human and demonic. Dissociative individuals may also experience an internal backlash from cult-loyal alters and/or occult alters.

Though backlash is common within non-Christian groups, this section is focusing on the backlash that can be experienced from “Christian occult” circles, but they use the same type of retaliation tactics as non-Christian occult organizations.

Depending upon the situation of the individual, if they were involved with a Christian occult group, there will likely be attempts at retaliation from the group, as they will be angry at the individual for abandoning the group, especially if the individual begins to publicly expose their ungodly practices by speaking out against them and warning others. However, backlash is also a result of the anger the demonic have as the programming breaks down and less people are connecting to the spirit of the antichrist. The connection they have with the individual is weakened or broken, and the control they have because of that connection is gone. The entire satanic system is being disrupted and weakened, and this makes them angry.

The overriding reason for these attacks is to reconnect the individual to the spirit of the antichrist. The Dragon programming is at least one way they oversee this. People who have been programmed with the End-Time programming will have the Dragon programming, although the person may or may not actually see or sense the dragon spirit. We stated these things in the “Dragon Programming” section, but it bears repeating:

If the individual is aware of the dragon, they may find themselves having troubling nightmares of dragons, being spiritually attacked by a dragon, or even during waking hours, begin seeing the shadow of a dragon passing overhead. The shadow will not have a light source that is causing it to appear, and it will often pass overheard when the individual is indoors, making it impossible for it to be mistaken as the shadow of a large, misshapen bird in the physical.

Please understand, this is not an actual dragon, as in, dragons from fairy tales or mythology. These attacks or manifestations are occurring because of End-Time Dragon programming. This “dragon” is a type of demonic entity that protects the spirit of the antichrist and, under certain circumstances, can take on the appearance of a dragon.

Scripture speaks of dragons, as well, and while those verses can be referring to whales, sea monsters, or snakes, the Bible also refers to Satan himself as being the “dragon.”(4) Although some theologians may scoff at a “dragon spirit,” this has been our experience, but it certainly isn’t a point we have any desire to make an issue of. The main thing is to keep our eyes on our Heavenly Father, and not any demonic attacks.

However, there are additional reasons for the backlash, and the different avenues through which this backlash is experienced are: demonic attack or torment, demonic visitation, human attack, human visitation in the astral, and internal backlash for those who have dissociative disorders.

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A. Demonic Attack or Torment

This can manifest in several different ways, including:

  1. An increase in visitations in the form of demonically-inspired nightmares and/or sexual assault in the spirit realms, or in demonic assaults that manifest in the physical.
    • Sexual assault can occur while awake or asleep.
    • Can include sleep paralysis, as well as night terrors (although night terrors can happen for other reasons, too, such as unresolved trauma, and not necessarily demonic attack).
  2. An individual can begin to sense unseen demonic presences hovering nearby, whether during the day or when waking in the middle of the night.
  3. It’s also not unusual for the individual to begin seeing demonic faces manifest in everyday surroundings (trees, clouds, shadows, et cetera), or an increase of such activity.
    • This can also include seeing what appears to be unexplained shadows moving across the room or catching such movement from the corner of the eye.
    • Can also include orbs of light or what some people call “fairy lights,” although this is usually related less to demonic attack and more to “visitations from the demonic” described below.
  4. Depending upon the level of occult activity the person was practicing, there can also be poltergeist-type activity of various intensities.
  5. An increase in what is sometimes called “alien” abduction.

These goals of these attacks can include:

  1. To bring confusion, fear, depression, illness, suicidal feelings or suicidal ideation, and other similar issues.
  2. For some individuals, it can also be an attempt to reprogram.
  3. To scare the individual into feeling they are helpless against these types of attacks, and to keep them focused on the demonic (the problem) rather than on the true God (the Solution).
  4. To push the individual into practicing some type of “white magic,” such as:
    • searching for solutions outside of Scripture. For example, the “Courtrooms of Heaven” we previously discussed.
    • erroneously using Scripture to order God or His angels about in an attempt to stop the attacks.
    • These things are getting back into practicing witchcraft, and is tying the person back into a unity with Satan’s antichrist agenda, which is one thing that the Dragon programming is designed to do.

Important to Note: Some charismatics who are practicing witchcraft will often send what they call their “angel” to attack the individual, but it is, in fact, a demon. Ironically enough, this is something that many occultists rarely do, and when they do, they are usually very careful in how they do this. They recognize that for every action, there is an even stronger reaction, and they are reticent to put themselves in a position to receive the negative. What the charismatic witch may not realize is that not only are they are putting themselves in a very bad position to receive severe judgment from God, but once the demons they are dispatching are finished using them, they are positioning themselves to receive even harsher treatment from those same demons. If you have been involved in sending your so-called “angel” to attack other people, you need to humble yourself before Almighty God and repent, asking Him to forgive you, before it is too late.

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B. Visitations from the Demonic

By this, we are referring especially to those visitations that are masquerading as angelic-type visitations.These sorts of visitations vary, and can include:

  1. Pleasant sexual encounters with supposed “angelic beings.”
  2. Light orbs or “fairy lights.” Some people mistake these as “angels.”
  3. Visitations from a so-called spirit-guide who is coming to help bring understanding and enlightenment, and remind the person of their “noble purpose” in achieving a world-peace to make possible the coming of “the Christ.”
  4. Seemingly benign visitations to remind any occult alters of the dissociative individual, or the individual themselves, of their supposed “true purpose.”

Since these types of encounters and visitations can feel pleasing and seem harmless, people often see these manifestations as benign and good. But the goals of these visitations can include:

  1. To bring confusion to the individual, causing them to focus more on the demonic manifestations or visitation than on their relationship with their Heavenly Father.
  2. To bring guilt and shame (condemnation) to the individual if they succumbed to the deception. This condemnation serves to keep the person separated from God, and to prevent them from confessing their sin.
  3. To lure people back into occult practices and into reconnecting with the spirit of the antichrist.
  4. For some individuals, it can also be for the purposes of reprogramming.

For the dissociative individual, it’s possible to have alters, especially occult alters, who are welcoming these types of visitations and are keeping the gateways open within the person so these visitations can occur. This can bring confusion and frustration to the individual, and the resulting condemnation will often keep the individual separated from their Heavenly Father and from confessing their weakness and sin to Him.

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C. Human Attack

These attacks can be in the physical or in the astral. Depending upon the circumstances, the physical stalking and harassment can be at the individual’s private residence, at their place of employment, or around town. It can also include harassment or stalking on social media, telephone, or email. The harassment can involve things such as:

  1. Gaslighting techniques.
  2. Spreading rumors and lies about the person or their character.
  3. Giving out information about the individual that was shared in a private, confidential setting.
    • For example, a “Christian” counselor or life coach sharing with others, either publicly or privately, the information given in the private setting of a confidential counseling session.
  4. Passing out private information about the individual, such as information about their family, home address, or telephone numbers.
  5. Attempting to frighten or intimidate the individual, usually with covert threats, but sometimes with overt threats.
    • For example, using threatening language insinuating that a lawsuit will be filed if the individual publicly talks about their experiences within the group.

The three main goals of these attacks are:

  1. To convince the individual to keep quiet through intimidation and fear.
    • In some cases, this fear and intimidation is coupled with guilt, and is meant to bring the individual back into the group.
  2. To cause the individual to feel crazy.
    • This is a gaslighting technique.
    • This can include telling the individual either that they are lying or that they have “misunderstood the situation,” when neither statement is true.
    • This brings confusion, so the individual will not know what to do, and will have a hard time discerning the difference between what is real and what is not real, and between what is truth and what is a lie.
  3. To cause the individual to look crazy to others.
    • This is also a gaslighting technique.
    • This is done to undermine the credibility of the individual.

Important to Note

Educating yourself on the traits of cult groups and the traits of abusive, narcissistic people will help bring understanding to the tactics of such groups of people, so the resolve to get away and keep away from such groups can be strengthened and the fear of their tactics is lessened. When your fear is lessened, their ploys are less effective.

The harassment can also be in the form of attacks in the astral realms, and while sexual assault can be involved, it is also often a result of deceived Christians, sometimes under the guidance of a conscious occult infiltrator, practicing witchcraft under the guise of “spiritual warfare,” using their prayers as chants and twisting Scripture as a spell, and sending their demons (who the deceived Christians think are angels) to attack and torment the individual.

The intent of the astral attacks can include to bring confusion, fear, depression, loss of finances, unexplained physical pain, health problems, and even death. The individual’s family members and even family pets can also be targeted.

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D. Human Visitation in the Astral Realms

These visitations are often in the form of astral travel/projection or dream insertion. Sometimes there are attempts at sexual encounters in the astral, as well as teaching or attempting to teach occult doctrines that are disguised as “Christian” doctrine.

The intent of these visitations vary, and can include:

  • to bring fear and intimidation
  • to bring confusion and condemnation (particularly with sexual encounters)
  • to try to lure the individual back into the group
  • to spy on the individual
  • to keep the soul-tie connection between the individual and the members of the group
  • to attempt to influence their thoughts or behavior

E. Backlash from the Internal System of Those Who Have Dissociative Disorders

It’s also not uncommon for the dissociative person who has been programmed to have certain types of programming triggered (this varies with the individual), or for the dissociative individual who has occult alters or “dark” alters to receive backlash from those alters in various ways.

The different ways this can manifest are too many to address in this book. But among other things, it can cause confusion, chaos, and stress, as well as renewed or increased suicidal ideation, self-harming and self-sabotaging behaviors, and switching that will cause the person to do different things, including going back to cult groups or back into occult practices.

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How to Deal with These Attacks

It is foolish to believe that the Christian will never come under demonic or human attack. It is also erroneous theology to believe that we can command all attacks to cease, and we will never have to deal with another attack again. Unfortunately, the very fact that we are alive on this earth means that we will come under attack from the enemy, and from people who are working for and being used by the enemy. So the goal of the Christian is not to stop all attacks; but the goal of the Christian is to deepen their relationship with the Father, learn to trust Him, and learn to focus on Him. Through developing a relationship with the Heavenly Father, trusting Him, and focusing on Him, the attacks we experience will be less effective and not so overwhelming. When we focus on the Solution (our Father) rather than the problem (the attacks), we will become stronger and more at peace, no matter the circumstances around us.

The importance of focusing on the Solution rather than our circumstances is beautifully illustrated by the account in Matthew 14:24-33:

“But the ship was now in the midst of the sea, tossed with waves: for the wind was contrary. And in the fourth watch of the night Jesus went unto them, walking on the sea. And when the disciples saw him walking on the sea, they were troubled, saying, It is a spirit; and they cried out for fear. But straightway Jesus spake unto them, saying, Be of good cheer; it is I; be not afraid.

“And Peter answered him and said, Lord, if it be thou, bid me come unto thee on the water. And he said, Come. And when Peter was come down out of the ship, he walked on the water, to go to Jesus. But when he saw the wind boisterous, he was afraid; and beginning to sink, he cried, saying, Lord, save me. And immediately Jesus stretched forth his hand, and caught him, and said unto him, O thou of little faith, wherefore didst thou doubt? And when they were come into the ship, the wind ceased. Then they that were in the ship came and worshipped him, saying, Of a truth thou art the Son of God.” (KJV)

Here are some examples on how to focus on your Heavenly Father rather than the attacks:

  • In dealing with attacks from the dragon, when you become aware of it, simply ask God to take care of it, and to continue breaking you away from the Dragon programming, setting you free from the spirit of the antichrist. There are no magical words you need to chant; there’s simply humbling yourself before God and asking Him to take care of the situation. Your Heavenly Father knows what is best for every situation, and He knows the solution before the problem is even manifest, including mind-control and End-Time programming. Simply ask Him to apply His solution to your problem, and trust that He will.

  • When dealing with demonic attacks, learn to not focus on the demons when they come at you. We are in no way suggesting this is an easy feat. It can be very difficult to not give in to fear or panic when demons are coming at you. However, if your focus is on your Heavenly Father, there is a peace that will come over you even in the midst of being attacked, because no matter what happens to you in this life, you have placed your trust in God, and you are in His hands. Put your focus back on your Creator, and ask Him to stop the demonic attack in whatever way He sees fit. Sometimes the demonic attack will instantly cease; other times, you may need to learn to focus on Him in spite of the demonic attack and the attack will continue for a time. Either way, trust that your Heavenly Father knows what is best for you, and learn to focus on Him. When you focus on Him rather than demons, your faith is built up; then you begin to realize that the demonic has no real power over you, and their attacks are not effective.

  • When dealing with human attacks or visitation in the astral, it’s usually second-nature to want to fight back. Avoid this. By engaging in a type of “spiritual warfare” and praying against them, you are coming under and operating out of the same spirit of witchcraft as your attackers. Remember that it is not God’s desire that any should perish, but that all would come to repentance (2 Peter 3:9). This includes the people who are coming against you and attacking you. So instead of going on the attack, pray that God would stop the attackers from bringing harm to you and your family or loved ones, and pray that God would make them leave. Ultimately, however, ask Him to take care of the situation in whatever way He sees best. Don’t go on the offense yourself; ask God to be your Defender and Protector, and put your trust in Him. Furthermore, use their attack as an opportunity to pray earnestly for them, not against them. Pray that God would open their eyes to the truth, and pray that they repent and turn back to God.

    If there is a need to pray about any curses they may be attempting to place on you or your loved ones, you will feel the Spirit of God urging you to pray. There’s no need to panic. Often because of fear and ignorance, there is a tendency with many Christians to desperately seek after what they see as a “more powerful and effective prayer.” It is comparable to the way a witch would look for a more powerful incantation, and this is operating out of a spirit of witchcraft. There are no “magical incantations” that are more effective than other “magical incantations.” Simply pray to your Heavenly Father, and give the problem to Him. Place your trust in Him, asking Him to break the power of any curses that have been sent against you. Ask Him if there is something specific you need to be aware of that you can pray about, but otherwise, simply put your trust in Him and ask Him to take care of the situation in whatever way He sees best. Then rest in the assurance that He is taking care of the situation according to His will.

    In situations where the attacks or harassment are physical in nature, take the necessary precautions to protect and defend yourself and your loved ones. In some cases, you may feel that is best for you to take legal action. Don’t let any false guilt or ungodly religious programming prevent you from defending yourself or taking legal action when it is necessary. But even still, in the midst of taking such action, use the situation as an opportunity to pray for your attackers, asking God to bring them to repentance and to turn their heart back to Him.

    The harassment may be to the point where you decide you need to move to a different location. However, at the least, it is wise to change your email address and change your telephone number. We also advise either getting off social media for at least a period of time, or changing your social media accounts, if possible. But at the least, any and all contact with any cult/occult members, as well as sympathizers and supporters of those people, should be cut off on social media, and blocked, if possible. This is for your own mental, emotional, and spiritual health.

  • For the individual who has dissociative disorders,(5) dealing with internal backlash (such as backlash from occult alters, for instance), or programming that is being triggered in addition to the End-Time programming that is causing upheaval, can be extremely difficult and overwhelming. There are a lot of variables — too many to go into in this book — but we address a few of the things in a separate section of this book titled “Thoughts on Healing.”

    However, for now we will encourage you to focus on the true God and your relationship with Him above all else. Submit yourself to Him and ask Him to help you. He knows exactly what you need and He knows how to heal you from the inside out.

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V. Withdrawals

Being hooked up to and aligned with the spirit of the antichrist is much like being hooked up to an I.V. of narcotics: the high feels good, but the crash is horrible. As we detailed in the “Seat of Dominion” chapter, the demonic control the individual through negative reinforcement (withholding the drug so a crash is experienced), or by positive reinforcement (administering the drug so a high is experienced), and this is done through the neurotransmitters of the nervous system, as well as controlling the hormones through the endocrine system. So, one unfortunate side-effect of disconnecting from or taking oneself out of alignment and agreement with Satan’s agenda can be withdrawals, much like what an addict feels when they are trying to detox from whatever substance they have been addicted to. Not being hooked up to that “spiritual drug” and not having access to that “spiritual high” that the individual is used to operating out of, can lead to withdrawals. Symptoms vary in intensity and can include:(6)

  • Insomnia; or, the inability to sleep at night, and the need to sleep all day
  • Nightmares, night terrors, and/or sleep paralysis
  • Extreme irritability
  • Fear
  • Confusion
  • Depression
  • Feelings of hopelessness
  • Fatigue
  • Physical pains that can include: headaches, muscle soreness/weakness, shortness of breath, chest pains, et cetera.
  • Physical ailments that can include adrenal fatigue and similar problems.

Sometimes, an individual may be spared from experiencing withdrawal, but often, they will go through a rough period of time that may last from a few weeks up to a few months, or even longer, depending upon how severe the physical ailments are and the general physical health of the individual before they began experiencing withdrawals.

Aside from the practicality of getting medical advice or treatment for the physical ailments, there are also some tips you may find useful in the section titled, “Thoughts on Healing.” Ultimately, however, overcoming this is achieved by submitting to God and asking Him to help you. Learn to make your Heavenly Father your focus, and He will walk through this dark period of time with you and will help you. When He brings you to the other side, you will trust Him that much more, your faith in Him will be strengthened, and you will be more resolved to serve His will and not your own.

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VI. Testing the Spirits

There is more than one scripture that teaches us how to “test the spirits,” but most people start and end at 1 John 4:1-3:

“Beloved, do not believe every spirit, but test the spirits to see whether they are from God. For many false prophets have gone out into the world. By this you will know the Spirit of God: Every spirit that confesses that Jesus Christ has come in the flesh is from God, and every spirit that does not confess Jesus is not from God. This is the spirit of the antichrist, which you have heard is coming, and is already in the world at this time.” (BSB)

The danger behind using this Scripture as the only Scripture to test the spirits is that many may not understand what this verse actually means. There are four important words we’d like to point out: confess, Jesus, Christ, and flesh.

Confess: — to declare openly, speak out freely; to profess oneself the worshipper of one.

Jesus: — Jesus is the transliteration of the Hebrew term “Yehoshua” or, Jehoshua (contracted to “Joshua”) which means “Yahweh saves,” or “Yahweh is salvation,” and is His human name, as the incarnate, eternal Son of God.

Christ: — “the Anointed One.”

Flesh: — to appear clothed in human nature.

This verse, read in context and with understanding, is telling us that every spirit that is from God will openly declare themselves to be the worshipper of the Son of God who has come clothed in human nature, who is anointed by God, and through whom salvation comes to mankind. They are, in essence, bringing themselves under the authority of Jesus Christ, and any spirit that does not bring itself under the authority of Jesus Christ is not of God.

However, people — or parts of people — can easily declare “Jesus Christ,” even though they have not actually brought themselves under His authority. And with those who are dissociative, demonically-controlled and influenced alters can easily say, “Sure, Jesus Christ has come in the flesh,” and the individual then opens themselves up to accepting everything that comes after this false confession. This is not wise.

The Biblical way to test anything, is to compare it with the Word of God and see if it lines up with His Word. This includes activities we and others are involved in, as well as the things people tell us that they say are “from God.” But concerning testing spirits, we also have many other Scripture that we can consider.

2 Corinthians 11:4 (BSB) — “For if someone comes and proclaims a Jesus other than the One we proclaimed, or if you receive a different spirit than the One you received, or a different gospel than the one you accepted, you put up with it way too easily.”

In other words, don’t put up with any being that proclaims a “Jesus” other than the Jesus that is taught in the Bible, and don’t accept a gospel that is different than what is in the Word of God. And of course, in order to not be swayed by false Jesuses or false doctrines, we must be able to correctly interpret the Word of God, because doctrines of demons use Scripture that has been twisted out of context.

1 Timothy 2:5 (BSB) — “For there is one God and one mediator between God and men, the man Christ Jesus.”

Jesus Christ is our mediator, not angels or our own human spirit. Neither do we work alongside Jesus Christ in a “courtroom of heaven” to mediate between ourselves and the demonic. Jesus Christ alone is the mediator.

John 16:13 (BSB — “However, when the Spirit of truth comes, He will guide you into all truth. For He will not speak on His own, but He will speak what He hears, and He will declare to you what is to come.”

The Spirit of God guides us into all truth; not our own human spirit, nor angelic beings.

Galatians 1:8-9 — “But even if we or an angel from heaven should preach a gospel contrary to the one we preached to you, let him be under a divine curse! As we have said before, so now I say again: If anyone is preaching to you a gospel contrary to the one you embraced, let him be under a divine curse!”

If so-called “angels of God” are telling you things that do not line up with the Word of God, they are not of God. Furthermore, if any human is telling you things that do not line up with the Word of God, throw it out! It is not of God.

Romans 8:34b (BSB) — “For Christ Jesus, who died, and more than that was raised to life, is at the right hand of God—and He is interceding for us.”

Jesus is seated at the right hand of God the Father; He is not in our system or living in our “heart.” Furthermore, Jesus Christ intercedes for us on our behalf. He doesn’t need our help in a “courtroom of heaven.”

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VII. How to Pray

A lot of people have emailed us asking us how to “pray against” certain things they are facing in their lives. We understand this, because we have been there ourselves not too long ago, but we hope that by the time you have read this far in this book, you will understand why “praying against” is not a term we use any longer. All too often, “praying against” is used as witchcraft to try to force God to do something to the will of the individual, or it is used as a type of so-called “spiritual warfare” to fight against other people, either as an offensive attack, or as a defensive attack.

But often the average person is caught up in these types of prayers because they are frustrated and concerned that they aren’t praying in the way that will ensure their prayer will work. They are looking for a formula prayer, and if it doesn’t work, they think they must have said it wrong, or that the words aren’t powerful enough. And if they don’t get the results they want or expect, they search for specific prayers that other people claim help specific needs.

There are some inherent problems with these types of formula-based prayers.

Problem One

Formula-based prayers have the tendency to be very similar to “SPELL-CASTING.”

Formula-based prayers are often read like a script (because who can remember all the complicated wording?), and are usually chanted over and over again, day after day. This is reminiscent of an incantation or spell. But it also speaks to the weakness of the prayer, in that there is the need to constantly say the same things over and over again until it “works,” or so it doesn’t “lose its effectiveness.”

Sometimes these prayers employ what we call “the schmooze” tactic, and the individual starts “thanking God” for something that they desire or need, using Scripture that has usually been taken out of context, with little to no consideration for the will of God at all.

Some good questions to ask yourself would be:

  • Do you have faith in a particular “powerful” prayer, or do you have faith in your Heavenly Father?
  • Does God only hear complicated prayers with specific wording? Or does He listen to the prayer that is prayed according to His will, with faith and trust in Him?
  • Is God waiting for you to butter Him up or stroke His ego before He’ll answer your prayer?
  • What if God’s answer to your prayer is “no.” Will you be satisfied with that answer?

Sometimes these kinds of prayers use the same tactics against the enemy that is being used against us, usually under the guise of “spiritual warfare.” This is absolutely unbiblical. We don’t fight evil with evil; we don’t fight witchcraft with more witchcraft. That is the way of the ungodly, and that is the way of the occult. Satan has so many Christians busy doing “spiritual warfare,” that they have lost focus on a relationship with their Heavenly Father.

Furthermore, many prayers like this presume to order God Almighty about, declaring our will over His. Usually Scripture is twisted out of context to do so. The absolute importance of coming to our Heavenly Father with humbleness and submission cannot be overstated.

Related to this thought, some formula-based prayers order and command angels, or tell God to order and command His angels in a particular way, neither of which is Biblical in any way, shape or form. Jesus Christ said we have authority over demons so they have no power to harm us. We have no power over angels, nor the right to order them about. Neither do we have the authority and power to order God about.

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Problem Two

Formula-based prayers can be FEAR driven, rather than faith driven.

Often people’s desperation sends them on a search for the “right prayer” to help them pray against demons, the “right prayer” to pray against invasive technology, the “right prayer” to pray for other people, and even the “right prayer” to pray against people. These types of prayers cause people to put more faith in the words they speak, how they speak them, and how many times they speak them, rather than putting their faith in the Word of God. And once the “white magic” of their formula-based prayer wears off, it’s time to “pray” again, usually in a “more powerful, better way.” This then drives people into deeper witchcraft, as they seek answers for the problems they are having.

Problem Three

Formula-based prayers can also be EGO-DRIVEN, whereby the individual believes themselves to be a “warrior for Jesus,” so they whip out their “sword” and start beating up people or what they think are demons, blithely ordering angels around, and arrogantly claiming this or that over themselves or others without ever once considering the will of the Father. This is not Biblical. This is ridiculous.

So keep it simple, and rather than praying against something or someone, pray to your Heavenly Father! Simply pray as Jesus did: submit to the Father and ask for His will to be done. If you have a specific need, you certainly don’t need to make your request known with such a long or complicated prayer. Present your desires in the same way Jesus Christ presented His desire to the Father in the Garden of Gethsemane: “If it is possible, let this cup pass; nevertheless, not my will but Yours be done.” Then step out in faith and do what you know He has called you to do, trusting that He will provide your every need, and asking for His will be done above all else.

Important to Note: Many times — perhaps all the time — God’s will is above our understanding, and sometimes His answer to our prayer is “No.” He alone is sovereign, and He alone knows the end from the beginning. He knows how to work all things for the good, and regardless of what we think we need, God alone knows what we need. This is why we pray for His will to be done, not ours.

A Verse to Consider

“Be anxious for nothing, but in everything, by prayer and petition, with thanksgiving, present your requests to God.” (BSB)

Philippians 4:6 —

With these things in mind, we offer a reminder of the example Jesus gave on how we should pray.

“And when you pray, do not be like the hypocrites. For they love to pray standing in the synagogues and on the street corners to be seen by men. Truly I tell you, they already have their reward. But when you pray, go into your inner room, shut your door, and pray to your Father, who is unseen. And your Father, who sees what is done in secret, will reward you.

“And when you pray, do not babble on like pagans, for they think that by their many words they will be heard. Do not be like them, for your Father knows what you need before you ask Him.”

“So then, this is how you should pray:

“‘Our Father in heaven,
hallowed be Your name,
Your kingdom come,
Your will be done,
on earth as it is in heaven.
Give us this day our daily bread,
And forgive us our debts,
as we also have forgiven our debtors;
And lead us not into temptation,
but deliver us from the evil one.’

“For if you forgive men their trespasses, your Heavenly Father will also forgive you. But if you do not forgive men their trespasses, neither will your Father forgive yours.”

Matthew 6:5-15 (BSB)

There are some wonderful, important truths to contemplate from this passage.

Verse 5 reminds us to not be like the hypocrites who stand in public to pray their prayers, desiring to be seen and heard by other people.

Verse 6 reminds us of what our attitude should be: one of humble reflection and of focus on our Heavenly Father alone, not anyone else. (And in case it isn’t clear, “inner room” is not a Biblical code-word for “astral traveling to another realm to meet up with a ‘Jesus,’” nor is it a code-word for “going inside one’s system to interact with a ‘Jesus.’” Those things are not Scriptural and are not of God.)

Verse 7 warns us to not pray like the pagans pray, with babbling prayers that are spoken as incantations. A great example of this type of witchcraft-based “vain repetitions and babbling” prayer contrasted with faith-based prayers to God can be read in 1 Kings 18.

Verse 8 reminds us that our Heavenly Father knows our every need before we even know what we need. This is a great reminder that even when we pray for what we think we need, God alone knows what we truly need. So ask Him for what He knows you need, rather than what you think you need.

Verse 9 tells us to direct our prayers to our Heavenly Father, and to focus on His majesty. Recognizing and having reverence for the holiness and perfection of God is the beginning of a relationship with God and the start of your healing. And when you focus on the Solution (your Father) rather than your problem, a wonderful thing starts to happen: you will begin to have peace that passes all understanding, in spite of circumstances around you.

Verse 10 reminds us to desire the Kingdom of God to be expanded in our heart, and to seek after His will over and above our own.

Verse 11 reminds us to continually (daily) rely on Him to supply our every need. He alone is the Source of our provision and help.

Verse 12 reminds us to search our heart and mind to consider if we have wronged God or our fellow man. It reminds us to not only live in a perpetual state of forgiveness, but also in a perpetual state of repentance for those we have wronged or for being out of line with the will of our Heavenly Father and His standards. It is a beautiful reminder that repentance and forgiveness go hand-in-hand, and there can’t be one without the other. Living a lifestyle of repentance and forgiveness is a daily activity, and requires the help of our Heavenly Father.

Verse 13 tells us that we rely on our Heavenly Father to lead us away from sin and temptation, and to protect and defend us from the attacks of the enemy.

Verses 14 and 15 reiterate the importance of living in a perpetual state of forgiveness, so that our heart may be humbled before our Father.

The bottom line is, follow the example of Jesus Christ and do as He commanded: focus on your relationship with your Heavenly Father. Submit to Him, make your requests known, pray for His will be to be done, and then trust that He will answer not according to your will, but according to His will.

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VIII. Other Helps Regarding Dissociative Disorders

This entire section has been written largely by Loren Grace, with Carolyn’s thoughts added here and there.

Aside from personal experiences, professional sources include:

A. An Overview to Understanding Dissociation and D.I.D.


  • Dissociation: the state of being separate from association or union with another. Synonyms: separation, detachment, severance, split, segregation, division. (7)

    In psychology: dissociation is a mental process that causes a lack of connection in a person’s thoughts, memory and sense of identity. It can range from any wide array of experiences from mild detachment (daydreaming) to severe (dissociative disorders).

  • Dissociative Disorders: characterized by an involuntary escape from reality characterized by a disconnection between thoughts, identity, consciousness and memory. It involves problems with memory, identity, emotion, perception, behavior and sense of self.

As of this writing, mental health professionals have identified three types of dissociative disorders:

  1. Dissociative identity disorder (DID)
  2. Dissociative amnesia
  3. Depersonalization/derealization disorder

There are different levels of dissociation, and everyone dissociates to a degree. If you have ever been driving down the road and find yourself pulling into your driveway without any memory of actually driving, you have experienced what is commonly called “highway hypnosis.” This is a mild form of dissociation. Daydreaming is also a mild form of dissociation.

Where dissociation can become a problem is when it is persistent and interferes with everyday life. This usually takes place under extreme and persistent trauma or prolonged stress. An individual can dissociate as a coping or defensive mechanism, and if the stress or trauma persists, the individual can develop a trauma disorder, such as PTSD, or a dissociative disorder, such as DID.

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DID — What It Is

Dissociative Identity Disorder (DID) was previously known as MPD, or, Multiple Personality Disorder. Those with dissociative disorders can have other diagnosable mental health problems at the same time, with PTSD being the most common.

According to the American Psychiatric Association, symptoms of dissociative identity disorder (criteria for diagnosis) include:

  • The existence of two or more distinct identities (or “personality states”). The distinct identities are accompanied by changes in behavior, memory and thinking. The signs and symptoms may be observed by others or reported by the individual.

  • Ongoing gaps in memory about everyday events, personal information and/or past traumatic events.

  • The symptoms cause significant distress or problems in social, occupational or other areas of functioning.

Individuals with varying degrees of DID often refer to the dissociative parts of them as “alters, parts, others,” or similar terms.

When another part of them takes control of the physical body or conscious mind, this is usually called “switching.”

The dissociative individual who has DID can also sometimes, but not always, be aware of an “inside world” that is part of their system. The system consists of the safe and unsafe parts of their inside world (often created either subconsciously, or, in cases of TBMC, through programming), as well as all the alters that stay there when they aren’t taking full or partial control of the body.

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DID — What It Is Not

  1. DID is not imaginary friends or an “inner child.”
  2. DID is not demon possession.
  3. DID is not a mental illness or a psychosis.
  4. DID is not genetic, although some research indicates that the ability to dissociate can be genetic.

Causes of DID

Although there is some debate and disagreements within the DID community, professionals generally seem to agree that DID is most often caused by persistent and extreme trauma at an early age. The child, unable to physically remove themselves from harm, psychologically dissociates from the abusive environment.

There is evidence that suggests children under the age of seven, when exposed to repeated, overwhelming trauma, are more likely to develop DID than an adult, given the same set of circumstances. However, once a child has begun to implement this extreme form of dissociation, he or she will be able to split off new identities at any subsequent age.

Some examples of persistent and/or extreme trauma can include:

  1. ongoing physical and/or sexual abuse
  2. psychological trauma and/or neglect
  3. ongoing war environment
  4. sadistic or satanic ritual abuse (SRA), also referred to as ritual abuse (RA)
  5. trauma-based mind control programming (TBMC)

Basically, dissociation is a coping and defense mechanism that an individual instinctively employs in order to survive trauma. This dissociation, when persistent, can develop into the condition known as DID. So what starts off as a helpful coping mechanism, eventually turns into a disorder, becoming an involuntary lifestyle and the exclusive or chief coping strategy the person has available to them

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Symptoms — What DID Looks Like

There are level of awareness between alters, and this can vary from person to person, depending upon many factors, including severity of dissociation. And although a “multiple” (a person with DID) may act differently in different situations, depending upon which alter is “out” (participating in external life), you would likely never know the difference between a non-dissociative person and a multiple. This is because most people with DID work very hard at hiding their condition from others.

For example, Sara may normally be quiet and reserved, but when her alter, Lori, is out or closer to the front of the consciousness, she is slightly more outgoing and talkative. Or, Sara may enjoy cooking, but her alter, Tony, may not be nearly as proficient at cooking as Sara. The non-dissociative individual may attribute this difference in attitude to mood changes, but with a multiple, it’s not necessarily just a “mood change.”

The American Psychiatric Association writes:

“The attitude and personal preferences (for example, about food, activities, clothes) of a person with dissociative identity disorder may suddenly shift and then shift back. The identities happen involuntarily and are unwanted and cause distress. People with dissociative identity disorder may feel that they have suddenly become observers of their own speech and actions, or their bodies may feel different (e.g., like a small child, like the opposite gender, huge and muscular).

“The Sidran Institute notes that a person with dissociative identity disorder “feels as if she has within her two or more entities, each with its own way of thinking and remembering about herself and her life. It is important to keep in mind that although these alternate states may feel or appear to be very different, they are all manifestations of a single, whole person.” Other names used to describe these alternate states including “alternate personalities,” “alters,” “states of consciousness” and “identities.”

“For people with dissociative identity disorder, the extent of problems functioning can vary widely, from minimal to significant problems. People often try to minimize the impact of their symptoms.”

Differences between alters can be discreet or extreme, but for the most part, the inexperienced non-dissociative person would likely not notice any difference in behavior, or may dismiss any deviation that is apparent. But basically speaking, alters have various personalities, and these differences may be more or less noticeable, depending upon the person or situation.

Besides personality distinctions, the differences between alters can also include:

  1. religious preferences
  2. values or philosophies
  3. worldviews
  4. emotional responses
  5. memories
  6. levels of learning or special abilities
  7. perceived age, race, or nationality
  8. perceived gender identity and/or sexual orientation
  9. some alters may view themselves as being an angel, demon, or other spiritual being, as well as an animal or an inanimate object (such a rock, a gem, or a box).
  10. some alters may even believe they are dead.
  11. they may see their own physical features as different, even though the outside looks the same (e.g. weight or hair color)
  12. they may have a different name, the same name, or no name at all
  13. they have different roles or functions

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Symptoms — What DID Feels Like

Most multiples would likely agree the goal is to be able to live a normal life, without being incapacitated by symptoms. With time and work, symptoms can lessen significantly. People with dissociative disorders may experience some or all of the following:

  1. Depression
  2. Mood swings
    • usually brought on by a switch, or by the stress of the switch
    • accompanied by changes in awareness, thoughts, emotions, attitudes, or ethics and morals (this is indicative of a switch)
  3. Suicidal thoughts or attempts
  4. Sleep disorders (insomnia, nightmares, night terrors, and sleepwalking)
  5. PTSD symptoms, such as:
    • panic attacks
    • hyper vigilance
    • exaggerated startle response
    • flashbacks of the trauma, including physical, sexual, mental and/or emotional trauma
  6. Phobias (these can be reactions to reminders of the trauma)
  7. Attempts to cope with the trauma in other ways, rather than dissociation, including:
    • alcohol and drug abuse
    • eating disorders
    • compulsions and rituals
    • self-harm
    • other self-sabotaging behaviors
  8. Headaches (sudden, sharp headaches can be indicative of a switch, but not everyone who has sudden, sharp headaches has a dissociative disorder)
  9. Amnesia or time loss
  10. Trances or out-of-body experiences
  11. Some people with dissociative disorders experience the following:
    • self-persecution
    • self-sabotage
    • violence (both self-inflicted, as in self-harming, and outwardly directed)

None of these symptoms in and of themselves indicate the individual has DID. This is not a list to self-diagnose. But they are just some of the symptoms that people who do have DID most often deal with on a regular basis.

Furthermore, not every multiple will deal with the same issues. For instance, not everyone has problems with violent or self-harming behaviors (like cutting themselves). Not every dissociative individual has drug or alcohol addictions, and many have no eating disorders, compulsions, or rituals. But the above items are a broad list of issues that are common among many people with dissociative disorders.

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B. Thoughts on Healing

This section has been written with those in mind who have dissociative disorders, although some of these suggestions may be helpful to those who are non-dissociative as well.(8) Some of these thoughts have already been discussed in this book, but we put it here in one spot for you, for easy reference.

Thought One

If you choose to go to a therapist to help with your healing, either secular or religious, make sure you understand the style of therapy they offer. One type of therapy may be helpful to you, but another may be useless, harmful, or against Scripture.

Thought Two

Support groups of various types can be helpful. They can also be triggering, causing more harm than good. Be aware of your own emotions and of your triggers, and if you find that a support group has turned out to not be as supportive as you originally thought, don’t feel badly about disengaging yourself from that situation. When you are in a better place emotionally and mentally, you may find yourself able to be in a group setting again. This holds true for online support groups as well.

Thought Three

We realize this is often easier said than done depending upon the situation, but it is vitally important to stay away from toxic people — for example, those people who are abusive, manipulative, lying, controlling, hurtful, or mean. Likewise, distance yourself from people who continue to be friends with the toxic people in your life. It is also important to stay away from people who are triggering to you. They may not necessarily be toxic individuals, but if they, for whatever reason, are triggering to you, simply stay away from them.

Through educating yourself on what types of behaviors are not acceptable, and by learning what boundaries are healthy for you, you will begin to be able to clearly see patterns of behavior in yourself and in others that are unhealthy and harmful. Once you pinpoint the negative influences in your life, get away from them. This is for the sake of your own emotional, mental, spiritual, and physical health. If you are unable to get away from the toxic people in your life, begin making plans to do so, preferably with the help of a trusted health professional, family member, or close friend.

At the very least, set healthy boundaries for yourself and stick to them. If you are unable to go “no contact,” at least make it “limited contact.” Certainly, learn to distance yourself emotionally from them so that their toxic emotions do not adversely affect you.

There may be other situations that make it more difficult for you to get away from toxic people — work, for instance. If you are surrounded by toxic people at work, it’s vital that you learn to set your own boundaries and stick to them. It may be helpful to start making an account — such as a log in a notebook — of every toxic encounter you come across. Simply give the date, time, the place, the names of the people involved, and a short account of what was said or done. Try to avoid treating the account as your personal diary. The point of registering the toxic encounters is to possibly build a case for upper management or the authorities; not to vent your frustration, anger, hurt, or the like. In the meantime, make plans to find another job, or to transfer to another department.

Making an account of toxic encounters may be helpful to you in a variety of situations, such as being forced to deal with a toxic ex-spouse, or the like.

The bottom line is: you have choices. True, the choices may be very limited, and they may not be ideal, but you do have choices. It may take working with a professional for you to be able to see the choices that you have, and to help you find the courage to step out and make positive changes for yourself. But don’t let anyone tell you that you have no choice but to take the abuse of other people for the rest of your life.

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Thought Four

What we call “light journaling” can be helpful in staying aware (staying present), and remembering the highlights of each day. It can also help to serve as a sounding-board, of sorts, for you and your parts to vent anger, frustration, pain, confusion, happy moments, et cetera.

In contrast, what we call “heavy journaling” includes a free-association or “stream of consciousness” type of journaling that can help you recover memories in a very quick way. This is where you focus on a specific traumatic or confusing event in your past that you can’t quite understand, or even recurring dreams or nightmares, and you simply write what seems to be “random thoughts” that come to your head. While this can lead to a quick recovery of memories, it can also lead to flooding of memories, as well as a triggering of latent programming for those who have gone through TBMC programming. As with heavy system work (detailed below), there can be dangers of this type of journaling. So if you choose to employ this, we suggest that you use extreme caution, be aware of your triggers and emotions, and, if possible, work with a professional to help you work through issues, especially related to memory flooding and programming that may be triggered through this memory work.

Overall, we strongly suggest that your journaling stay more on the “light” side, unless you have a good support system, and are working directly with a trustworthy individual who can help you process memories and all the emotion, stress, and even programming that it can trigger.

Thought Five

Anger: this is often a “four letter word” for many survivors. Or, at least, a “four letter word” for those who work with or have a close relationship with survivors. No one likes to really talk about anger very much, because by-and-large it is socially unacceptable, especially within “Christian” environments. As soon as we — or our parts — start talking about how angry we are, there is a tendency for the “Christians” to come out of the woodwork, telling us how we can’t be angry, and how we need to “forgive.” This can be triggering of even more anger, and is completely opposed to the healing process that we need to walk through.

However, let’s pretend for a moment that the ignorance of such people does not exist, and let’s just discuss anger for a moment.

There are different types of anger. There is anger against God. There is anger against abusers. There is anger at ourselves. There is anger that is used as a defense mechanism, to protect us from real or perceived harm. There is misdirected anger. There is unresolved and unprocessed anger that festers and sours into resentment and hatred. There is an anger that we dissociate from or refuse to acknowledge that can exhibit itself as a pious humility or an ungodly submission.

This is just a sampling of the different types of anger you may be dealing with, and it can be very difficult to work through all these different types of anger and its many different manifestations. But one thing to keep in mind in dealing with all this anger is that there is “healthy anger,” and there is “unhealthy anger.”

Unhealthy anger keeps us from healing. It keeps us from a relationship with God, and it keeps us from developing healthy relationships with other people. Unhealthy anger keeps us from healing.

Healthy anger allows us to set healthy boundaries, and keeps us from allowing ourselves and others to be a target for abuse and ungodly behavior. Healthy anger allows us to heal and can propel us to help others who are in need.

While education on trauma issues, anger issues, and boundaries are very helpful — and we recommend this education — in our experience, the major anger issue that is important to get healing from at the beginning is your anger towards God that you may feel. After this, all other issues with anger begin to find their proper place, including healthy anger that allows you to recognize what is wrong and to set boundaries to protect yourself and others around you.

Expressing anger towards God is a very scary thing for many of us. However, keep in mind that God knows your thoughts. He already knows how angry you are towards Him. By admitting and expressing your anger, you are, in fact, confessing your anger. Confession is the first step to healing. Once you confess this anger, you are placing yourself in the position to allow God to show you His point of view. You may be surprised to learn that He has not forsaken you. He has not abandoned you. He has not thrown you into the pit of despair or the sea of strife and left you hopeless and alone. He is, in fact, right there beside you in that pit or in that sea, waiting for you to recognize the fact that He is there.

There is much more that we could say that reflects our own journey of healing from our anger towards God, but since this is such a personal journey, we will refrain. The issues you deal with may not be the same as what we deal with. But the important thing to understand is that confession of your anger towards God will begin to bring healing.

Another interesting benefit of anger, is that it can actually help you overcome programming. Whether this is the “professional” trauma-based mind-control programming, or the programming of brainwashing and indoctrination because of an abusive past, allowing yourself the luxury of feeling angry can help you overcome this programming. This is done by vehemently and with much angry emotion, vocally resisting the urges, thoughts, and emotions that the programming triggers in you. For examples of how to use this anger in breaking free from programming and/or processing of emotions and memory, refer to the chapter, “Finding Freedom for the Dissociative Individual.”

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Thought Six

Educate yourself.

  1. Educate yourself on mental and emotional disorders, particularly those that pertain to you, such as trauma disorders, attachment disorders, PTSD, DID, et cetera. This can help with understanding your patterns of behavior or thoughts that are directly related to those specific issues.

  2. Education on sociopathic, psychopathic, or narcissistic disorders, or narcissistic behaviors in general may help you see patterns of abusive behavior in others around you that you can then learn to avoid.

  3. Education on religious abuse, cults, and cult behaviors can be empowering, in part because you can begin to learn that it is not you but them who has the problem.

  4. Learning about communication techniques can be helpful in articulating your needs and your boundaries in healthy ways.

  5. Learning about different coping techniques can be helpful in learning to regulate stress levels.

Thought Seven

Finding a healthy hobby to focus your attention on can be helpful, and can help keep your hands busy and your time occupied with positive things. Try to choose things that keep you focused in the present, rather than things that support dissociation by disconnecting you from reality. For instance, while reading a good book can be a healthy activity — we, the authors, are avid readers ourselves, mostly of non-fiction for research and education purposes — if this is your only outlet or interest, it can lead to isolation. Instead, choose hobbies that keep your hands busy and your mind focused on something positive outside of yourself. This can boost self-esteem and lower stress levels. More active hobbies can include things such as learning to play a musical instrument, gardening, baking, crafting, woodworking, photography, and the like. Physical activities can be fun, and also have added health benefits, such as biking, hiking, swimming, kayaking, canoeing, walking, dancing, et cetera.

Thought Eight

Suffering from depression, stress, trauma, and the like, can make it difficult for us to follow basic, simple healthy habits, such as proper hygiene, healthy eating, and such. So learn to be good to yourself and take time to take care of yourself in the physical as much as you are able by concentrating on the basic things: food, hygiene and health.

If you haven’t been eating properly, try taking little steps every day to eat better, eating the healthiest food you are able to afford. If you can afford them, take vitamins. Attend to your hygiene. If you have medical needs, start taking care of them as you are able.

If you have problems with addiction, bring it to your Heavenly Father and ask Him to help you. Don’t be ashamed if you have a series of good days, but then slip and fall into addiction again. Confess your sin, repent, and ask Him to help you again. If you need to get professional help for your addiction, don’t allow shame or condemnation (false guilt) prevent you from doing so.

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Thought Nine

Don’t be so hard on yourself, and take life one day at a time. Learn to find pleasure in the small things in life, such as taking a moment to appreciate how the birds are singing in the tree outside your window. Above all, breathe, and remember that healing is not a destination but a lifestyle. It takes time, so be easy on yourself. Don’t put yourself on a timeline of healing, or allow others to put you on a timeline. True healing comes from your Heavenly Father. Focus on Him and on your relationship with Him. Allow Him to teach you to trust Him, and as He helps you walk down the healing path for your life, your faith will be built up in Him. Submit yourself to Him and ask Him to help you. He knows exactly what you need and He knows how to heal you from the inside out.

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C. Thoughts on System Work

Thought One

There are levels of dissociation, and there are levels of awareness concerning the inside system. If you are unable to be in contact with your system and your inside others, don’t worry about it. Ask your Heavenly Father if He can help you get in contact with your inside others, under the condition that it is in accordance with His will for you. For different reasons, some of which are explained below, it may be best for you to not have contact with your inside system. Your Father knows best, and ask Him for His will to be done in your life, even in this matter.

Thought Two

The number one rule about system work is this: don’t do system work with others, not even a counselor or other mental health professional. This could lead to programming, reprogramming, or triggering of programming, even unintentionally.

You may, however, wish to share with your counselor about any system work you do on your own.

Thought Three

There are two basic kinds of system work: heavy and light.

Heavy system work involves diving deeply into your system to figure out what is there and who is there. It can be thought of as a type of heavy duty “detective work,” going into places that are unfamiliar.

Light system work involves working with your inside others that you already know are there, and working within the spaces of your system of which you are already aware.

Thought Four

The three major dangers about heavy system work you do on your own are:

  1. you may have memory flooding
  2. memories may cause retraumatization
  3. if you are a survivor of mind-control, you may trigger programming.

These are very real dangers and can cause a lot of internal upheaval, which will then cause you upheaval in your everyday life.

Heavy system work is not necessary in order to find healing. It can be helpful in understanding certain things about the other parts of you, it can bring memories back very quickly, and it can also satisfy any intellectual curiosity you may have about your particular programming. However, each of these things that seem to be “helpful” have their own inherent dangers.

For instance, although heavy system work can be one avenue through which you quickly regain your memories, these memories can be retraumatizing, and if enough of them are happening at once, or if the emotions associated with those memories are extremely intense, it can cause what is called “flooding.”

Heavy system work can also be done as an effort to try to “deprogram” yourself; however, as with unlocking memories, there are dangers to this as well. For instance, while exploring your system, you may come across a locked door that you or your alters find a way to open. Opening that door may trigger a programming script, which can then cause a lot of internal chaos, which can, in turn, cause you a lot of upheaval in your everyday life.

Given the dangers, should you proceed with heavy system work, we strongly advise you to do so cautiously and slowly, and under the care of a trusted professional to help you work through the retraumatization, flooding, as well as programming issues that will likely come up if you are a survivor of mind-control agendas. This professional would not be doing system work with you, but simply helping you work through the emotional issues that come up as you do system work on your own.

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Thought Five

In our opinion and experiences, the safest way to do system work (and what we strongly advise) is this: ask your Heavenly Father to take care of whatever may be in your system that is causing you problems, including programming, loud alters, and the like. Then let Him take care of it. There will be no need for you to go inside your system. You don’t even have to know what, exactly, is inside your system that is causing you to have problems. All you have to do is ask Him to take care of it.

If you are aware of specific types of programming that have been triggered in your system, simply ask your Heavenly Father to do what needs to be done in order to delete that programming. For the fractal programming that is found in many charismatic teachings, the list under “End-Time Programming” may help you identify at least those few.

But whether or not you are able to identify which specific ones are pertinent to you, simply ask God to destroy any programming. He may show you a specific internal issue that needs to be addressed, and you can then submit that area of your life to Him, allowing Him to bring healing. He may work through your alters on the inside, and show them where programming is hidden and how to get rid of it. This can be especially true of ISH’s (internal self helpers), and you may or may not be consciously aware of this taking place inside your system.

Generally speaking, simply asking and relying on your Heavenly Father to take care of any issues is the safest way to do system work and to get rid of programming (destroy it), in our opinion and experience.

Thought Six

Regarding general triggering of programming: for programs that cause you to be stuck in patterns of thoughts or behaviors, it may be helpful to start paying attention to what was happening around you right before that program was triggered. We aren’t suggesting this is easy to do, but if you are able to begin trying this, it can help you see patterns. There are various techniques for overcoming this programming and to start a new, healthy pattern of thought. For instance, if you are stuck in a “I will never succeed at anything I do” pattern, forcefully and vocally begin a new pattern, such as, “That is a lie! I am working hard at what I am doing and my hard work will pay off!” Or, “That is a lie! I am successful at what I do!”

Important to Note: by “forcefully,” we mean, it is helpful to be angry. Anger is better than helpless and hopeless, and it can be a very powerful emotion that can actually help you overcome programming. If you can’t feel anger on your own, holler anyway. It might release some much-needed anger. If you are able to get in touch with the others on the inside of you, and if you have angry alters (you likely do), get in touch with them and embrace them. They are there for your survival and for your help — for the survival and help of all of you. Getting in touch with this anger is helpful in overcoming programming.

If you are coming against a pattern that is triggering a “call-back,” whereby you feel the strong urge to reconnect with past abusers, handlers, or programmers, forcefully and vocally remind yourself of why you are not going to do that, regardless of how you feel. You may find that preparing beforehand is better in a situation like this. For instance, you may want to make a list on a piece of paper of all the reasons why the people and the situation you left is toxic, and why you are not going back. Then place this list in a prominent place in your house or room. When that program is triggered, you can then march to that list and forcefully read it out loud. Keep a copy in your purse or wallet to bring with you, so if you are triggered when you are out, even being able to touch the paper might be helpful in grounding you, and may help you differentiate between what is real (the paper, you, your needs, your well-being) and what is false (the urge to reconnect).

These are simply a couple of general suggestions. As you educate yourself on various topics, including your own disorder, you will come across many more suggestions that will be pertinent to you and helpful to you and your specific situation. So keep educating yourself.

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Thought Seven

Regarding memory work: the safest way to remember something you know is there but you can’t quite recall, is to ask your Heavenly Father. You can ask Him to help you remember something if He knows it is something that you need to know. If He chooses to bring the memory to your mind, it is less likely to be retraumatizing, and it is less likely to lead to flooding. The memory may be shocking, but it isn’t likely to be so retraumatizing.

If you are already being flooded with memories, or are having memories that are retraumatizing, bring it to your Heavenly Father and ask Him to help heal you and to help you overcome. If you are aware of any inside parts of you that are being retraumatized, ask Him to bring healing to those parts of you, as well. Then take time for yourself, allowing Him to work healing in your life. You may also find that implementing some of our suggestions in the above section may be helpful as you work through the difficulties of retraumatization and memory flooding. We also talk about this at length in the next section.

Thought Eight

If you are in touch with your system and in touch with at least some of your alters, light system work can be helpful, if done carefully and in moderation.

For instance, you may wish to create a safe spot for all your alters to converge so they can feel safe and begin inward healing. This can be helpful; however, the danger of this is that you may feel the need to stay there yourself as a coping technique. You may feel the desire to dissociate from life, wanting to stay in cozy and comfortable place you created within yourself. This is not a healthy coping strategy. It worked in the past when you needed to survive difficult situations that had no way out; but in walking down a healing path, you need to learn better coping techniques that will ground you in reality, not keep you dissociated.

A good alternative if you are able to be in touch with your internal self helpers, is to ask their help in implementing changes within your system/s that will help bring a calm atmosphere. This can be helpful in a variety of situations, even in circumstances where programming has been triggered, if dark/occult alters are causing a great deal of chaos, or if you are experiencing flooding.

For instance, the co-author, Loren, with the help of her internal self helpers, locked herself out of her internal system for a short period of time. Among other things, this helped cut her off from the chaos that was going on inside from occult alters and from depressed/suicidal alters, so that the internal self helpers could sort through those alters and segregate them from the others.

If you aren’t in touch with your inner world or system, or unable to easily interact with the parts on the inside, that’s okay. Don’t try to visualize something you can’t see to begin with; this can open you up to being deceived. Just ask God to calm your inner world, and ask Him to bring healing to every part of you. God will bring healing to you, sometimes working through your ISH’s and other internal parts to bring order and peace to your internal world.

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Thought Nine

If you are able to get in touch with the others on the inside, working with them one at a time, or in small groups, can be helpful in working through different issues you have, such as overwhelming emotions, patterns of behavior or thoughts, addictions, and the like. We advise you to not push it too hard, however, so you don’t become overwhelmed. Little baby steps are better than wide, giant strides. Some things cannot and should not be rushed, and healing is one of them.

Thought Ten

Always keep this in mind:

Healing is a journey, not a destination. It’s a lifestyle.

Place your trust and faith in your Heavenly Father, and He will see you through. As you focus on Him, you will begin to experience more freedom.

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D. Thoughts on Heavy Work, Grounding, and Processing

We strongly advise against doing heavy system work or heavy journaling. However, if you decide to do the heavy journaling or the heavy system work, or have been doing it and are feeling overwhelmed, we have a few tips to hopefully make your journey easier. Of course, these tips will be helpful in a variety of situations where you need help processing or need help grounding, and not only if you choose to do more heavy journaling or system work. But they will be of especial importance if you decide to forge ahead with a lot of in-depth work.

Thought One

Important — only do heavy journaling or system work IF:

  • you are in a stable, safe place;
  • and, if you have someone to help you through this process. If it is not a qualified, trustworthy therapist, let it be a support person, such as a close friend or a spouse.

If you do not meet both of these criteria, it is our opinion that you absolutely refrain from doing heavy system work or heavy journaling. To do so would be unwise, and may cause you more harm.

Thought Two

Be aware of your emotional and mental state.

No matter your situation, if at any time you are unable to work through and process your emotions and memories in a healthy manner, stop doing heavy work. It helps if you have a system in place on the inside of you to cut yourself off from loud or overwhelming alters and all the emotions and memories that come with them. This was talked about in the above section, “Thoughts on System Work.” If you feel strong enough at a later date to go back to the in-depth work, then do so, but continue to stay aware of your emotional and mental state.

Thought Three

When doing heavy system work, even when working with a therapist, we strongly urge you to not allow them to do system work with you.

Would you allow someone to sit beside you and help you write your journal? We certainly hope not! But the same principle applies here: don’t let someone help you write your journal, and don’t let someone do system work with you. The therapist is there to help you process through the memories and the emotions of those memories so that you can come to an understanding for yourself; they are not there to dive deeply inside your system and poke around. At the least, that is an invasion of privacy; at the worst, that is the equivalent of a programmer. Don’t allow anyone to do that to you. Your system should be closed off to any outside intruders, whether human or otherwise.

Thought Four

Continue educating yourself.

This book only gives small tips from our limited understanding and perspective. There is a wealth of free information in “Internet Land,” and many professionals have written articles or have produced videos that can be a great help to you.

Thought Five

Continue working on your relationship with your Heavenly Father. If all else fails, this is the most important thing you can do! He is the One who will help you find freedom and deliverance.

The things we spoke of in “Finding Freedom” and “How To Pray” may be helpful to you in this regard.

Thought Six

Go slowly.

Don’t rush it. It will be easier to manage and process the memories and the emotions that come with those memories if you don’t rush the process.

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Thought Seven

Learn how to “ground” or “center” yourself.

If you are feeling overwhelmed by memories or a wide range of emotions from yourself as well as from the inside parts of you, this is a sure sign of flooding. There is a wealth of information to be had about this topic, but here are some things that help us:

  • First, breathe. Close your eyes if it helps, and breath slowly and evenly.
  • Second, ask your Heavenly Father to give you peace and to help you.
  • Third, focus on five important questions: who, when, where, what, and why?

Answering the first three questions are important in grounding yourself in the here and now, and remembering that you are not that little helpless child any longer. You are an adult, and you are not helpless any longer. After you are grounded, answering the last two questions can help you more subjectively analyze your emotions, the emotions of your alters, and then process them.

These things take practice because they won’t likely come naturally. But keep practicing, and it will get easier with time.

⇒ Who

You may be feeling confused as to who, exactly, you are. So remind yourself of who you are. Say it out loud, even just a whisper, and then gradually get louder with your voice.

⇒ When

If you are flooded with memories, you may be dealing with switching, or with emotions that are keeping you in the past. Remind yourself of the year, the month, and the day. Look at a calendar if you or the inside parts of you needs reassurance that it is, in fact, the present and not the past. Remind yourself of the time of day. Is it day? Is it night? What season is it? Look at the clock and tell yourself the time. Then remind yourself — all of yourself — that this is now, and the past is gone. You are not in the past; you are in the present, and no one is around you that is causing you pain.

⇒ Where

Remind yourself of where you are at the moment. Start small. Are you in a bedroom? Are you in a living room? Are you outside? Next, zoom out to the bigger picture: what city do you live in? What state or province? What country? If it’s the same place you were living in when others were causing you harm, remind yourself that no one is causing you harm right now.

You may want to stop here, and think of your five senses: hearing, sight, smell, taste, and touch. What do you hear? What do you see? What do you smell? Is there something you can taste, even water? What does it taste like? What do you smell? This is helping to ground you in the here and now, and to help pull yourself out of the past, where your senses were overwhelmed with things that were not pleasant.

When you are adequately grounded and feeling calmer, proceed slowly with the next two “W’s”: what and why? Have a notebook nearby so you can jot down some answers, or even draw a picture about it. It doesn’t have to be a grammatically correct sentence, and neither does your artwork have to be worthy to be framed and placed beside a Picasso. It is for your healing, not for anyone else.

⇒ What

What are the specific emotions you are being overwhelmed by? Write them down and say them out loud, but don’t just say them any old way. For instance, do not say, “I am afraid.” Instead say, “I am feeling afraid.” Do not say, “I am angry.” Instead say, “I am feeling angry.” The reason for this is so you will not continue to feel overwhelmed by these emotions, and you can more easily analyze them. You are acknowledging that this is how you feel, or how other parts of you feel, but at the same time, you are not allowing the emotions to define who you are. You do not exist because you have emotion, but you have emotion because you exist. This is an important difference to understand, so you will not allow your emotions to overwhelm you, and so you will not allow yourself to be defined by those emotions.

⇒ Why

Why do you have that specific emotion? Here is where you can begin to explore why you feel the way you feel about particular emotions. Take one emotion at a time and put your thoughts to paper on the why of that particular feeling, although you may find the reasons all intertwine at certain points. That’s okay, too.

Finally, give everything to your Heavenly Father and ask that His will be done and accomplished in your life, and in every part of you, so that He can help you find freedom and healing.

Important to Note: If you think about it, these steps behind “grounding and processing” have been about three very basic but important things: confession, repentance, and submission.

  1. First, you recognized (admitted, confessed) that you needed to ground yourself and process through some emotions and any memories that came with it.
  2. Second, you spoke the truth of the “Who, Where, When, What and Why.” This is confession.
  3. Third, you chose to turn away from a continued dissociation or the lie behind the programming. This “turning away from” could be thought of as repentance.
  4. Fourth, you gave everything to your Heavenly Father and asked Him to take care of it according to His will. This is submission.

Understanding the truth behind “repentance, confession, submission” and what it truly means from a Biblical standpoint, is such a basic but very important part of healing. So if you have been practicing all of these things, and reminding yourself — forcefully, if need be — that these things are for your healing and not your condemnation, this step will be much, much easier for you to do.

We hope it is clear by now that the key to your healing is building your relationship with your Heavenly Father!

Thought Eight

The last tip we have is for you to talk out your memories and your emotions with your therapist, your spouse or partner, or a support friend when you feel safe enough to do so. Verbalizing the emotions you felt, and any memories that came along with them, is a very helpful step in your continued processing and healing. It can also help break the silence, which in turn helps break the denial, and in turn begins to break the pattern of dissociation. It is creating a new, healthy pattern, built upon first acknowledging yourself, your other parts, and your own emotion and memories; and then someone else acknowledging you, your parts, and your emotion and memories. Having a healthy acknowledgment — knowing you are being heard and accepted — is a powerful, healing thing.

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E. Thoughts About Support Persons

Important to Note: We are not speaking of therapists in this section, but of a friend who has agreed to be a support person for you. Ideally, this type of supportive situation will come about organically, without the need to “interview” potential friend candidates, or the need to get a list of “Boundaries and Rules” in writing. This isn’t a contract situation. It’s looking for a friend who, over time, has shown that they are stable enough to provide a little extra support for when you need someone to talk to. This can be a very rare thing, but if you can find a friend like this, here are some things to keep in mind.

Thought One

Be choosy. Don’t pick just anyone who is sympathetic to you. Just because someone is sympathetic, does not mean that they have the energy, the time, or the general understanding of trauma and dissociative disorders to be your support person. It should be a good friend that has shown over time that they care about you and are able to lend a listening ear for when you need someone to talk to. Although your support system can and should include your spouse or partner, if you are in a relationship, sometimes the burden to be your sole support system is too much for one person to handle. So it’s nice if you are able to have another friend, aside from your spouse or partner.

Thought Two

In some cases — particularly with those people who jump at the chance to say they are your “support person” — it may be necessary to define exactly what they think that means. If you need a phone call or some face time, but they only want to text or occasionally message on social media, that can very quickly escalate into confusion, hurt feelings, anger, and resentment. It can, in fact, be contrary to the healing process.

Thought Three

If another survivor friend is your support person, this can be okay under certain circumstances. First, if they are not in a safe, stable place, they will not likely be able to give you what you need. Chances are, your needs will drain their own energy, sucking them dry emotionally, and bringing harm to them. Conversely, their needs may do the same to you. This isn’t a good situation for anyone to be in, either for your friend or for yourself. Second, if they are not far in their healing journey, they are not likely to be in a position to be anyone’s support at that time. They are in a position where they need support. Follow the Biblical principle, and keep in mind that “the blind can’t lead the blind.” (Luke 6:39)

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Thought Four

If you do have a support friend, keep a few important things in mind.

  • They aren’t God. They can’t heal you. (Neither can any therapist or counselor, by the way.)

  • They aren’t your therapist or life coach. They are your friend. If they are a good support friend, they have at least some understanding of trauma, attachment, and dissociation disorders. So, for instance, they might be able to remind you of your grounding tools that you are learning to use, and they certainly can and should pray with you and for you. But they aren’t there to tell you what to do. They are there as a good friend to cheer you on and to encourage you as you figure it out on your own, so don’t lean on them to tell you what to do or how to do it. Additionally, depending upon the comfort level of your support friend, you may need to refrain from constantly going into all the gory details of your past as you might would do with a therapist. Be aware of their triggers, too, especially if they have a dissociative disorder as well.

  • They aren’t there to do the work for you. You have to be educating yourself. You have to be learning about and implementing different grounding techniques and healthy coping strategies that work for you. You have to be working on your own memories and emotions. You have to be processing your own memories on your own time. You have to be working on your own relationship with God. You have to be your own best therapist and your own best friend; no one can take that place. And guess what else? You can do it! You are capable, and with the help of your Heavenly Father, you have the ability to find the strength within yourself to walk this healing journey.

  • They can’t meet every need you have and they can’t fill the empty spots left in your life by those who have hurt you. They can’t be mommy, daddy, sibling, child, therapist, pastor, nurse, coach, and “replacement-lover,” all rolled into one. They are a friend who has agreed to be there for you when they are able, and that’s it.

Thought Five

In regards to that last sentence, “They are a friend who has agreed to be there for you when they are able,” there is one very important caveat to keep in mind: when they are able. There needs to be healthy boundaries that are respected. At the least, this means you are respectful of their time and energy, and they are respectful of yours. This may include having blocks of time where they are not going to be able to talk, such as around dinner time, or on weekends, or something of the sort. This is just as much for you as it is for them. If you never learn to accept other people’s healthy boundaries, you may end up in situations where you are always inadvertently pushing people away because you expect too much from them. This, in turn, reinforces the attachment injuries you have, causing you to once again seek out people without respect for boundaries, holding on to them too tightly, suffocating them, in a sense. So if they are having a bad day and can’t talk, or if they are busy with something and do not have the time, let that be okay. If you keep point four in mind — that they aren’t your everything — then this will be better for you, and easier for you to respect boundaries.

This does not mean that if they are emotionally distant from you, or begin ignoring you, or become increasingly unavailable to talk with you, that you should just put up with it. If your friend isn’t able to handle being your support person, then he or she shouldn’t be your support person. There may be perfectly legitimate reasons for them being unable to, such as their own personal problems they are struggling to deal with, and this doesn’t necessarily mean they have come to hate or dislike you. But these are signs that it may be time to look elsewhere for the support, if you still need extra support, and that is okay, too, because your boundaries and your needs are just as important as theirs.

Thought Six

Be a good friend to them! Be a support to them, too. This may seem like a very simple thing — and it is — but it’s so important. This is part of learning how to have meaningful relationships with people. Everyone needs support, even people who don’t have serious trauma injuries. Ask how they are doing, and then listen to what they have to say. If they are having a rough day, listen to them and offer your sympathy. If they are having a good day, let them share the joy in their life. If they need help and you are able to help, do so. Pray for your friend, and let them know that you are praying. Be the friend that you want others to be to you, and if there is mutual respect between the two of you — and mutual respect is an absolute must with a support friend — then your friendship will be reciprocated, and you will both benefit.

Yes, these things are most often easier said than done, we know. We’ve been there. But with God on your side, with practice, and by being patient and loving with yourself as well as with others, you’ll work through it, and come out happier and healthier, able to have meaningful relationships with people whom you respect and who respect you.

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F. Thoughts to Potential Support Friends

Thought One

If you can’t be a support friend, for whatever reason, don’t sign up for the job. It is bad to have no support, but for a survivor, it’s far worse to have people who say they are going to be a support, and then are not. It reinforces all the attachment injuries, and heightens fear and insecurities for the survivor. It simply isn’t healthy or fair to them.

Thought Two

Having sympathy is not a good enough reason to be a support friend for a survivor. Yes, you have to be a kind, sympathetic person, but that alone isn’t going to help. You need to have a least a basic understanding of trauma disorders, attachment injuries, as well as dissociative disorders, and the desire and ability to continue your education. Otherwise, the entire process will quickly become overwhelming for you, which won’t be fair to either you or the survivor. So make sure you know what you are getting into.

Thought Three

Do not bring your own presuppositions into the relationship and presume to know more about trauma than the person themselves. It simply means that you understand enough to know that you don’t understand enough, and being willing to learn.

Thought Four

It’s not always a good idea to offer advise unless they ask for it, and even then, tread lightly. They need your support, not you constantly shoving your advice down their throat. Sometimes they do need advise, but keep it general, unless they ask for more. Don’t put yourself in a position where they will begin to resent you, feeling as if you are just another controlling parent, constantly advising them and telling them what to do. Nor do you want them to begin to treat you as if you are their controlling parent, depending upon you to tell them what to do and how to do it. That isn’t healthy for anyone.

Thought Five

Set healthy boundaries for yourself, and respect their boundaries, too. In other words, have mutual respect, especially for time and energy.

Thought Six

If the time comes when you are no longer able to be a support person, just tell them. Don’t drag it out until it’s to the point where they are left wondering if you are just sick and tired of them and don’t want to have anything to do with them anymore. Survivors aren’t weak. We are strong. Your survivor friend can learn to handle it if you can’t be there for them the way you said you would in the beginning, especially if you handle it the proper way, but don’t leave them hanging.

Handling it properly includes giving them at least some plausible reason, such as you have to take care of aging or sick loved ones, or your own illness, or you are moving away. You can also assure them that although you can’t be as big of a support as you have been, you will continue to be their friend and will continue praying for them.

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1 Repent, Repentance – Vine’s Expository Dictionary of New Testament Words. Blue Letter Bible. 2017. Web.

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2 “renunciation”. Unabridged. Random House, Inc.

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