Q&A: Advice for Those Who are Being Gang-Stalked and Harassed

This was an article that was originally written by Loren Grace and published on CarolynandLoren.com on May 13th, 2018. Since this article was one of the most-viewed articles with many people finding it to be helpful, Loren Grace has given me permission to republish her article here.


I am being gang-stalked. It’s been happening to me for the past 4 years and has continued now that I moved to [another state]. Do you have any advice for those being harassed and gang-stalked?

⇒ Note: This individual gave a lot of other information indicating they had been through severe abuses as a child, including mind-control programming, and that there are generational occult ties, as well. These are things that this person should take into consideration as very likely being a part of the overall picture in regards to being harassed and gang-stalked.


While there is a lot of detailed advise from many different people who give their opinions based on their own perspectives and experiences (and both Carolyn and I encourage you to carefully seek out other people’s resources, too), the following things are what I wished I would have known when I was being gang-stalked and harassed, both in the physical and in the spiritual, and what I have since learned. Some of these things (or even many of these things) may not apply to you, the reader. But I hope that at least something will be useful and helpful. 🙂

There are two fronts to consider when being gang-stalked and harassed: the physical and the spiritual. Few may consider the spiritual side of it as well, and may not think it even worthy of consideration, but the spiritual side is an important element to assess in the overall discussion on gang-stalking and harassment.

In our book, in the section titled “Backlash,” we touched on this topic of gang-stalking and harassment, although we didn’t specifically use the word “gang-stalking,” but this article will go into a lot more detail.

The Physical Side of Gang-Stalking and Harassment

Many people are familiar with the physical side of gang-stalking, as in: a group of individuals, usually working together, who systematically harass and torment an individual, usually in a way that is insidious and difficult for the individual to pinpoint or prove to others without appearing to be paranoid or crazy themselves.

While the term has been most often used to define harassment by certain individuals within some type of government role (either working officially as part of their assignment, or unofficially), it can be argued that this term can also be applied to other individuals who have made it their mission, for one reason or another, to systematically stalk and harass another individual in a way that is difficult to prove legally.

The main reason why gang-stalking and harassment can be difficult to prove legally is because of the lack of forensic evidence. Another reason is because the individual who is being stalked and harassed may act in ways that appear to be paranoid, irrational, or just plain nuts. By confronting and solving these two problems — a lack of evidence and overly emotional and irrational responses — you can better empower yourself, and ideally minimize the effects that the gang-stalking and harassment have on you.

The steps you can take to protect yourself generally center around empowering yourself and taking control of your person, your own environment, and your life.

1. Learn to calm down.

Yes, this is easier said than done, and you may feel that this is impossible for you to do. I can relate. But here are some things to consider.

Being gang-stalked and harassed causes you to be fearful, and fear that is being improperly channeled leads to irrational and illogical behavior. This, in turn, causes you to be a more vulnerable target for the people who are harassing and gang-stalking you.

Furthermore, when you are being harassed and gang-stalked, the fear and desperation will likely cause you to feel crazy and paranoid, which fuels even more fear. It’s a vicious cycle, and is an intended effect of the gaslighting tactics used by gang-stalkers and harassers. But understand that if you are being harassed and gang-stalked, you are not crazy and you are not paranoid. However, if you don’t learn to think rationally about your situation, you may come across as irrational, crazy, or paranoid to others, which doesn’t do much for your self-esteem, your emotions, and your state-of-mind! It also doesn’t change anything about your situation.

The emotions of fear, despair, and depression that gang-stalking and harassment precipitate may cause you to think that you have no resources — that you are hopeless and helpless. But this probably isn’t the case, and if you can learn to calm down and assess the resources that you have available to you, you can then make an action plan based on those resources.

It may help you begin to calm down if you remind yourself of this: the people who are gang-stalking you and harassing you in the physical are people. They aren’t infallible, they aren’t indestructible, and they aren’t all-powerful and all-knowing. They want you to think they are infallible, indestructible, all-powerful, and all-knowing. But they are flesh and blood, the same as you. They may have more resources than you (such as money, power, and influence), but that doesn’t mean that you don’t have resources that you can use to your advantage, as well.

Even people who are harassing and stalking you in the astral realms are still people: flesh and blood, the same as you. But we’ll get into the spiritual aspects of gang-stalking and harassment in a moment. 🙂

So don’t allow others to cause you to feel vulnerable and helpless. You are not helpless. You have resources and you have choices, and taking advantage of these things will cause you to be less vulnerable.

2. Get angry

This may sound counter to the previous suggestion of “calm down,” but I’m not talking about an irrational anger. I’m also not talking about stomping about life, spitting mad at everyone and everything around you.

I’m talking about allowing yourself to get angry in a way that is productive, shocking you out of the paralyzing or irrational fear-state you are in.

Here’s what I mean.

Fear can paralyze us, especially if we feel cornered; fear can also agitate us to the point where we make irrational choices out of a desperation to survive. But fear, when channeled properly, can motivate us to make positive changes.

But sometimes we need a jump-start to get there.

And so anger, when channeled properly, can be that propellant to thrust us out of the “paralyzed fear” state, or the “irrational fear state,” and into a state of mind and emotion that is more calm and more rational, allowing us to make calculated decisions that induce positive changes within our self and, ideally, within our own environment.

So use your fear in a positive way and use your anger in a positive way: allow it to motivate you to be proactive and to take control of yourself, your life, and your environment, in whatever capacity you are able. You will probably start off with small changes. And that’s okay! Taking control will likely be a gradual and slow process, but it is possible.

If you don’t think it’s possible, then you’ve already allowed fear to paralyze you, and the gang-stalkers and harassers have already won. So if you are paralyzed by fear, or consumed by irrational thoughts and emotions, allow yourself to get angry enough to shock yourself out of that state of mind. Then you are ready to do something positive — even small somethings — about your situation.

3. Educate yourself.

Knowledge is empowering. If you can educate yourself, you will be better able to fight the harassment, either legally, or within your own emotions and mind. Or both.

Educate yourself on gang-stalking and harassment. Educate yourself on what other people have done to protect themselves from the tactics of gang-stalkers and harassers. Educate yourself on psychopathic behaviors. Educate yourself on cults and cult mindsets. Educate yourself on narcissistic personality disorders. Educate yourself on abusive behaviors and on cycles of abuse.

Learn about a “victim mentality” — what it looks like and how to break free of this abusive cycle. Regardless of other people’s abuses, you DO NOT have to continue being a victim. You are an individual who deserves respect. You DO NOT have to allow yourself to be manipulated. You DO NOT have to put up with abuse. So educate yourself on how to begin asserting yourself in a positive way, and on how to demand respect from others.

Likewise, learn about healthy boundaries: other people DO NOT have a right to intrude on your life. Other people DO NOT have a right to control you and to stalk you and to harass you. Allow a healthy anger over this intrusion upon your person and in your life propel you to make a change, creating and defending healthy boundaries.

Educating yourself on these types of things (and more) will gradually bring about internal changes that, after a period of time, will begin to show on the outside, on how you carry yourself, on how you assert yourself, on how you treat yourself and others. And you will become empowered and a stronger individual, more able to make clear, well-informed decisions about the specific circumstances in your own life. And even if the perps around you continue to harass and bully and stalk you (and they may continue!), it won’t matter as much to you anymore! Their tactics won’t be as effective! They won’t upset your entire life and your entire being!

But the changes must start within yourself.

4. Ask yourself questions.

While you are educating yourself, learn more about your specific situation by asking yourself questions. Some of the answers to these questions can take years to completely figure out, but it can be helpful to start putting together the pieces of the puzzle, so to speak, as soon as possible.

Some questions you may want to ask yourself include:

a. Who is gang-stalking or harassing you?

For instance, have you left a cult or an occult group, or are you living in a bad neighborhood and got on the bad side of a local gang? Are the authorities actively or passively involved in your harassment? Is the government involved in your gang-stalking and harassment? Are you being surveilled and harassed by a handler? Is your family involved?

There are many different groups that will gang-stalk and harass for various reasons, and while the style and effects of different types of harassment and gang-stalking can be similar, it’s important to know as much about the harassers as is possible. Why? Because the way you handle the situation might vary, depending upon who you are dealing with, and knowing who you are dealing with will help you understand your situation and help you act accordingly and appropriately.

Knowledge is power.

b. Why are they gang-stalking or harassing you?

Knowing the reasons, or possible reasons, why people are gang-stalking and harassing you can help you create an action plan that is specific to your situation. Sometimes there is no logical explanation — or at least, no explanation that seems obvious at first — but many times, there are reasons. We wrote about some specific reasons in the chapter of our book titled “Backlash,” but here are a few things to consider (obviously, this is not a comprehensive list, but is merely a starting point):

If the individual or the group of people are your family (or ex-in-laws), they may be angry at you for any number of reasons, and are lashing out.

In this case, part of your action plan might involve standing your ground, cutting all contact with them, compiling evidence of their harassment, and getting the authorities involved, if necessary.

If you left a cult or occult group, they may be retaliating against you for leaving. Or, if they are using other people to harass you and aren’t necessarily engaged in the harassment themselves, they may be trying to scare you into going back into the group.

In this case, part of your action plan will likely involve making sure you have completely cut ties with anyone even remotely associated with the members of the group, and publicly exposing the nasty and evil tactics of the cult or occult group that you left. Getting in touch with others who have left the cult group may be helpful to you, too, assuming such people have completely left and aren’t holding on, either physically to the group, or emotionally/mentally to the same cult/occult mentality. There’s power in numbers, but only if all members are working together.

 The group or individual may be warning you or trying to scare you into staying silent about what you know about them. This can be true especially for groups or individuals who are connected to, or have been connected to, particular government factions, and also cult or occult groups.

In this case, part of your action plan may involve doing the opposite of what they actually want, and go public with what you know. Yes, the consequences can be dire, depending upon circumstances. But if you are already being harassed and stalked, you might feel that you don’t have anything else to lose. Just make sure you are emotionally, mentally, and spiritually prepared for the fallout.

 If you have been involved in government or NWO groups, even unintentionally or unknowingly, then they may be keeping an eye on you to make sure that you are staying in position where they can control you and your environment to whatever extent possible. They can also be tracking you as a warning to keep silent about what you may know (even what you unconsciously know), or to try to scare you into doing something rash that will end in your demise. These are just some examples. The reasons will vary, depending upon the circumstances.

In this case, part of your action plan may include biding your time, compiling as much evidence as possible, getting the help of other people (I give suggestions for this in a moment), and then go public with what you know. Again, the consequences may be difficult, so make sure you are as prepared as you can be.

* Important Note: these examples and “action plans” are overly-generalized. Your responses and plan of action will be contingent upon your individual circumstances. The point I’m trying to make, however, is that no matter your circumstance, you have choices. They may not be the most ideal choices, no; but you still have choices.

c. What tactics are they using?

If you can identify the tactics they are using, you may be able to avoid at least some of the situations that may be contributing to your harassment. (See the next point for more explanation.)

d. How can you minimize the effects of their gang-stalking/harassment?

Although this is by no means a comprehensive list, here are some suggestions for you to consider.

⇒ Are you being followed as you drive around town, or as you go to and from work? Think about carpooling with a friend to get an eyewitness account of what’s happening. Or begin taking different routes around town to throw them off, at least temporarily. At the least, you can have some fun watching them chase you through the twists and turns.

It’s also a good idea to memorize the route to the police stations or fire stations in your area, so if you are being followed, you can lead them right to a place where you are more likely to receive help. Assuming, of course, that the police aren’t involved in the gang-stalking or harassment against you. But even if the police are involved in the gang-stalking, or are being complacent, insisting on filing a report (and getting a copy of such a report) will be helpful for you in the long run.

Another thing you might want to do is smile and wave at them whenever you see them in public. You might even be inspired to loudly holler out a greeting, just to throw them off their game a bit more. Why? Well… why not? It’ll throw them off if you do the unexpected. You know they are there, they want you to know they are there, so why not acknowledge the obvious so that everyone else knows they are there and why? Besides, perps don’t want everyone’s attention. They just want your attention. So throw them off their game a bit, as often as possible, and draw everyone’s attention to them.

⇒ If you suspect your vehicle is being tracked via electronic means, look for devices on your vehicle. Some have suggested taping a mirror to a long stick (such as a broom handle) and looking for blinking lights on the undercarriage of your vehicle, but I don’t know if this is the most efficient way to search your car. So research for yourself the best ways to find and dispose of tracking devices.

If you suspect your cell phone is being tracked, take the battery out, and then research ways to find and get rid of the tracking.

It’s unlikely, however, that pros would use a physical tracking device on your vehicle or your phone or in your house. Why? Because that leaves physical evidence. If by chance, however, they do leave this type of physical evidence, be sure to record evidence of such devices before disposing of them. In fact, you may want to contact the authorities (assuming they aren’t part of the ongoing campaign against you, of course), or a lawyer, a private investigator, or the like, before you dispose of any such devices, so that there is another eyewitness to see the evidence. At the least, after you record evidence of any tracking devices, ask a trusted friend or family member to be an eyewitness as you remove and dispose of the device.

⇒ Look for inexpensive, low-tech, wireless options for security that you can easily install on your doors and your windows of your home, or in your car. There are also options that you can carry with you. They are super-loud once they have been tripped, are very inexpensive, and are easily installed. Here’s an example of what I mean:


(I don’t endorse this website, and neither do I make any money if you choose to buy from them. I simply came across their products during my own research, and wanted to share a visual of the type of low-tech but effective security alarms that I am talking about.)

These types of alarms will be doubly-effective if you inform a trusted neighbor of what is going on. You don’t have to give details of the harassment and stalking, of course (unless you want to), but just inform them that you have a security alarm in place, and if it goes off, to please call the police. The reason I say this is because so often, people install very expensive security systems that are connected to security companies, and when the alarms are tripped, surrounding neighbors assume that the security company is taking care of the situation by automatically calling the police. So they ignore the alarm. But with systems like this, there is no security company to call the police if the security system is tripped. So ask the neighbors to call the police if they hear the alarm go off. There’s no need to tell them that it’s not connected to a security company, unless you want to offer that information; just ask them to please call the police if they hear the alarm.

Alternatively, rather than risk disturbing them and risk questions you don’t want to answer, you could simply say that your alarm system doesn’t have an automatic shut-off (it probably won’t), so ask them to call you if your alarm goes off while you are not there. Then you can call the police.

By the same token, ask your neighbor to keep an eye on your property. (And promise to keep a watchful eye on their place, as well). And again, you don’t have to go into details unless it’s necessary, but you can simply say that you’re concerned about the neighborhood safety, and that you’d like to band together as neighbors to protect one another’s person and property. Most people would be accepting of this, and willing to help out.

⇒ If you are being electronically harassed, research ways to protect or shield yourself.

If the electronic harassment is general to the area you live in, but not specific to you, moving might be your best option. If the electronic harassment is specific to you, however, research ways to shield yourself. For instance, some say that turning the room they sleep in into a basic faraday cage is helpful for them. But do your own research on the different options you may have.

⇒  Use social media, and the internet in general, judiciously and cautiously.

For those being stalked and harassed by professionals (such as those within government or government-protected organizations), expecting to obtain 100% obscurity over the internet is likely an impossible feat. (Although, I’m not a computer whiz by any stretch of the imagination, so perhaps there is more security and privacy available than I’m aware of, so do your research.)

UPDATE 6/20/19: I recently came across information about VPNs (virtual private networks), and using a VPN might be helpful to you in certain situations where you are trying to protect your online and streaming privacy as much as possible. If I were more tech-savvy, I probably would have already known about VPNs and I would have included this information when I originally wrote this article. But I’m not really tech-savvy. lol

But A VPN seems to be very easy to set up, and they don’t cost a lot per month, which is a plus. Here is a link where you can learn more about VPNs:


But it may help to use an anonymous internet search engines, such as DuckDuckGo.com. And if necessary, consider changing your social media accounts, email accounts, and telephone numbers.

On the other hand, if the situation warrants it, and should you choose to, using your social media accounts to bring awareness to the gang-stalking and harassment can be an effective strategy in shutting down the harassers. Or at the least, in exposing them and minimizing the effects of their campaign against you. But again, this depends upon the individual situation; specifically, who is stalking and harassing you, and why.

 Carry protective weapons with you, provided you know how to use them, of course, and are physically, emotionally, and morally comfortable using them. Depending upon the laws in your area, you may not be able to legally carry a firearm or even own a firearm, but a protective weapon doesn’t necessarily have to be a gun. It could be a club, a baseball bat, a taser, or pepper spray. Depending upon where you live, owning some of these things may come with certain restrictions, so check the laws where you live.

You may even want to keep cans of wasp spray in various areas throughout your home. Wasp spray is an effective defense weapon, it’s relatively cheap, and it has a long range (although a long range isn’t necessarily helpful in many cases).

One of potential downsides of using wasp spray, however, is that since it can be lethal or extremely debilitating, it’s possible that you can get into legal trouble for using wasp spray as a defensive weapon. On the other hand, depending upon the laws in your area, if you are being invaded by someone in your own home or on your property, this could perhaps be seen as necessary and acceptable force to protect yourself.

Ultimately, you should look into the laws in your area and decide for yourself what steps you are comfortable taking to protect yourself.

* Important Tip: a weapon that you don’t know how to use and that you aren’t comfortable using, can quickly become a weapon that is taken from you and used against you. So if you choose to carry a weapon, no matter what weapon it is, be comfortable with what you choose, and know how to use it.

If you are morally or emotionally opposed to wielding a protective weapon, then consider keeping an air horn in your vehicle or on your person. The blast of noise from an air horn may be enough to scare a stalker away (at least temporarily), but it also has the added benefit of getting the attention of others around you. Remember: perps want your attention, but they hate getting the attention of the general public.

⇒ Consider getting a guard dog. Even so-called “scary dogs” who are not typically a guard-dog type, such as Pit Bulls, will often scare the average person enough to stay away from your property or person. And other types of dogs, even those dogs who aren’t necessarily “scary” dogs, such as smaller dogs, may bark enough to scare people away from your person or property. Keep in mind that, as I’ve already stated, gang-stalkers don’t want the attention of everyone around. They just want your attention. When you draw the attention of others to them, or create an environment around you that will draw attention to them, they are less likely to continue their harassment. This may not always be true, of course, depending upon who is harassing you and why. But it’s true as a general rule.

But a side-benefit from having a pet, especially a powerful dog, is that owning and taking care of your dog can boost your moral and give you self-confidence. Not many people will mess with a person who is out walking their Pit Bull. Or their Doberman Pincher. Or their Rottweiler. Assuming, of course, the dog is well-trained. Or at least moderately well-trained.

If the ones stalking and harassing you are professionals, however, a dog wouldn’t likely deter them much. However, you can still glean the benefits of caring for a pet, while at the same time making their job more difficult.

⇒ In extreme circumstances, you may need to consider moving, either to a different neighborhood, to a different city, or to a different part of the country. This is not always possible, either, but it’s always an option to consider and to begin planning for in case you think a change of scenery might help.

For those who are being surveilled and harassed by people working within certain factions of the government, moving likely will not help long term, either, unless you have found a way to go completely off-grid and can fly under their radar, so to speak. So in cases like this, it may be better to stay where you are and stand your ground, especially if you are working on building a positive image in the community around you (more on this in a moment). But it just depends on your situation. Do your best to assess the risks versus the benefits of the choices you have, and then decide from there.

⇒ Consider enrolling in self-protection courses. While many (although likely not all) stalkers and harassers prefer to avoid any actual physical conflict, particularly if it is in the public eye, just having the knowledge and the self-empowerment of knowing how to adequately defend yourself can give you self-esteem, boost your confidence, and will help you project a “positive energy” about you that may cause you to be less of a comfortable target for your harassers and stalkers.

e. Another important question to ask yourself is: what can you do to catalogue their harassment efforts?

You may want to consider some of the following:

⇒ Get a car-cam to begin gathering evidence of them tailing you.

⇒  Install an inexpensive security camera in or around your home. Depending upon how well hidden your system is, and depending upon how much surveillance you are under yourself, this probably won’t do much to stop or to gather evidence against the pros (although, even pros can get sloppy or have an off-day), but it may help you gather evidence against the amateur.

One thing that might throw someone off is if you install a fake camera (a decoy camera) in an obvious place. Then have a secondary security camera that is hidden in an even better spot.

Ideally, you could employ a security firm to install security features in your home, but you can also research some inexpensive, do-it-yourself options that you can buy on Amazon or at your local hardware store. Such as baby monitors with camera capabilities, “nanny-cams” (in other words, what looks like every day objects, but with cameras hidden inside them, such as a stuffed toy or a clock), or the like. These things probably won’t deter the pros, so in some cases, you might be better off spending your money elsewhere. But it’s always an option to consider.

And since we’re on the subject, research ways to do a sweep of your home if you suspect that you are being spied upon by hidden cameras or listening devices. Or, better yet, hire someone to do it for you, if you can afford it. Then take the necessary steps to protect yourself. It may even be possible to use it to your advantage, having the cameras or listening devices there in your home. It just depends upon your circumstances.

 Keep a journal, cataloguing every instance of gang-stalking or harassment that occurs. The details need to include dates, times, names of the perps (if known), names of witnesses (if any), and what occurred, including what was said and done by all parties involved. A video journal may be acceptable, but it’s probably better to have a hand-written account in a notebook. You can augment the information in your notebook by other media, such as video evidence and photographs, but a hand-written journal is probably best.

Other details that can be helpful include:

  1. license plate numbers
  2. URL’s to social media accounts, email addresses, et cetera
  3. screenshots of online interactions, comments, emails, et cetera (think about printing out these screenshots as physical proof)
  4. a physical copy of the emails, or the actual physical letters, cards, “gifts,” et cetera
  5. pictures of any letters, cards, gifts, et cetera
  6. pictures of any destruction of your property, or pictures of any evidence of their presence

* Important Note: in addition to taking pictures of any evidence with a digital camera (such as the phone app that comes pre-installed on your cell phone), consider purchasing an inexpensive camera, such as a throw-away camera, that has actual physical film, and take pictures with that camera as well. The reason for this is so that you have a physical copy of the negatives that you can develop should something happen to your digital files.

Do not treat this journal as your personal diary. In other words, don’t detail how you felt about what happened and what you think about what happened. Use a separate journal to record your emotions and thoughts if you need to process through everything. This particular journal is only to keep a record of such events, and after enough evidence is compiled, you can take this log to the authorities, should you choose to go that route.

⇒ Get the authorities involved. If the police are either complacent or are actually a part of the harassment and gang-stalking themselves, then going to a lawyer, a private investigator, or to the media, may be options to consider.

⇒ Advocacy groups may be helpful, but if you choose this route, use your best judgement and be careful. Some have accused certain advocacy groups of being disinformation groups that are infiltrated by and run by counterintelligence officers. Whether this is true or not, I have no idea, but do your own research, and go into any situation with your eyes and ears wide open.

⇒ You may also want to consider contacting your Congressman or the Department of Justice, or other similar government organization, depending upon which country you reside in. I have done neither one of these things for myself, so other than cold-calling your Congressman, I’m not sure the best way to go about this, but you can research this option for yourself if it seems like something you might want to do.

One option I chose to employ many years back, after getting no help from local police, was to contact the nearest FBI office in my area and tell them that the person harassing me and stalking me at the time (one of my main handlers when I was a teen and young adult) was impersonating a CIA officer. It was close to the truth. In fact, as far as I knew then, it was the truth, because I didn’t believe at the time that he actually worked for the CIA. Turns out, he did work for the CIA, but even though the FBI weren’t all that interested in my report, that phone call stirred up enough trouble by opening up a temporary investigation on him. Which he hated, because perps hate exposure. (As someone who worked for the CIA, he also wasn’t fond of the FBI. I’m not sure if his sentiment was typical of the dynamics between the CIA and the FBI, but those are the feelings he expressed to me.)

At any rate, the FBI doing a short investigation into him got him into trouble with his handlers at the CIA. Which got him off my back.

At least temporarily.

I didn’t realize then, however, that part of his “job” (his unofficial job, of course, like all of his other CIA “jobs”) was to corral me into a place where I was back under his control and back under my mother’s control. Although I will likely never know the truth, I strongly suspect that this man who was stalking and harassing me was working under “unofficial orders” from my programmer, who was also connected to the CIA. I could be wrong about that, but at the least, since my mother acted as my main handler throughout my entire life, keeping me sufficiently traumatized and submissive to the point where I could not actively and consciously remember the programming I had gone through; and since I had cut off contact with her and refused to speak to her any longer in spite of her harassing efforts; then this man was acting on her behalf to try to corral me back under her control.

So if I would have known then what I know now, I’d probably still call the FBI, if for no other reason but to stir up trouble for him and to get him off my back temporarily. But I would have continued in a different manner after the telephone call.

This is where taking the time to assess my situation and figuring out who I was up against and why would have been very helpful. But at that time, I had no idea. And because of dissociation, I wasn’t at a place at that time in my life where I could even wrap my mind around the insane lies that my entire life had been built upon. So eventually his efforts wore me down, and I gave up, and did what was expected of me, succumbing to their control once again.

But that’s a different story.

And just to be clear: from what I learned from my CIA handlers, both from my own observations, as well as what was told to me, the CIA, like similar organizations, ultimately runs on a “need to know basis.” While there is a basic efficiency that keeps the different operations running smoothly (that’s the idea, anyway), on a certain level, different divisions often have little to no idea of what the other divisions are doing. Or very little that they will admit to, at the least. And within some divisions (maybe, to an extent, all… but I don’t know for sure), they often don’t even know the details of what their other team members are doing. And if they have an idea, they certainly don’t admit to it or talk about it, except with the double-talk, encrypted-style of language that all of them seem so efficient at speaking. (That was one of the things that angered me very much about my CIA handler: all the double talk and encrypted language. Nothing was as it seemed with him.)

So I’m not saying that the CIA itself, as a whole organization, was concerned about me. It’s highly unlikely that any of them, aside from my handlers/programmers at the time, even knew of me at all. And it’s highly unlikely that people outside of that small circle did (or do) even care, even if they did know. So in spite of what I know (which is relatively little), and in spite of what I’ve been through (which is a lot), I just wasn’t, and am not, that important to organizations such as the CIA. This is mainly because what I’ve been involved in can’t be proven with physical evidence. Maybe at one time physical evidence was around, but I wasn’t in a position to gather that evidence at that time, and neither am I in a position now to gather physical evidence.

(Correction: since writing this article, I came across some information which bears witness to what some of what I went through as a child. See “Mind Control, Parapsychology, and Media Disinformation“.) (Loren’s personal blog has been made private for an undetermined amount of time, and this article is no longer available to read.)

Furthermore, because I wasn’t “high level” within the physical organization (I was a child and a teenager when I was unwillingly involved in particular projects), I was not and am not a perceived threat. But at that time, my handlers were concerned about me, and some of my handlers were involved with the CIA.

Anyway, I guess that was unnecessary detail about my own experiences…. Sorry about the side-track. But maybe the info will be helpful to some.

So back to the main point I’m trying to make here: regardless of what recourse you choose to defend and protect yourself, having compiled physical evidence of the harassment will be especially useful to you.

* Important to Note: make copies of all the evidence you gather, and keep them in separate places. That way, if something happens to one notebook or one computer file, you have a back-up. If you have a trusted family member or friend, consider asking them to keep one of the backups for you. If you have no one, or if asking them to do this will put them in unnecessary danger, then consider other options, like asking a lawyer to keep the backups for you. Or simply make multiple copies, put one copy in a briefcase or duffel bag and keep it with you at all times, and find hiding places for the rest of them. Just do what you are able, but don’t worry about what you can’t  do and what you can’t control.

5. Make as many friends as possible.

Or, if you are like me, and don’t make friends easily (or, perhaps more accurately, don’t particularly want a gaggle of nosy people persistently hovering about… lol 😀 ), then make as many friendly acquaintances as possible.

I’m not talking about awkwardly interviewing a dozen or more people to find a bunch of best friends. But simply seek out friendly, peaceful, and safe interactions with others. If some of the interactions blossom into a friendship, that’s fine. But even if they don’t, just having as many friendly acquaintances as possible is a positive thing.

Why? Because the more people who know you and who interact with you in a positive way, the more likely they are to see you in a positive light, and the more likely they are to believe you and come to your defense, even if it is simply to bear witness to the harassment and gang-stalking that you are being subjected to. Besides, having positive interactions with safe people can help boost your overall mood, boost your self-esteem, and can actually make yourself a less desirable target for harassers and gang-stalkers.

If you are in a position to not know who to trust, then start small, and go from there, using your best judgement. Meet people and make friends where you are. Whether it’s at the grocery store, the gym, while taking a college course, at a self-defense class —wherever you go, start with what you have and with who is around you, and build from there.

6. Change up your routine.

Most of us are creatures of habit. While this is not a bad thing, sometimes stalkers and harassers depend upon this. So change up your routine every once in a while. These small changes in your routine can perhaps muck up the works for gang-stalkers and harassers, at least temporarily. And any mucking up the works for gang-stalkers and harassers, even in small ways, can eventually go a long way to discouraging them. For instance:

a. Instead of going shopping in the morning like you normally do, go in the afternoon.
b. Instead of going to the gym at three, go at four.
c. Or skip a day at the gym, and go for a walk or a bike-ride instead (assuming you have taken the necessary precautions to protect yourself).
d. Instead of going to work or home or the store via your normal route, take a different route (assuming you know the roads well, of course).
e. Instead of eating lunch out, bring a lunch to work with you (or vice versa).

7. Don’t take unnecessary risks.

This does not mean that you should slink about like a hunted animal, darting from cover to cover in an attempt to protect yourself. You might feel like hunted prey, but don’t act like it.

But this just means that there are certain risks that are foolish, and you shouldn’t take foolish risks; or, at the least, that there are certain risks that, should you take them, you should be prepared to immediately address any negative consequences that arise.

For instance, if it’s at all possible, it may be better to not travel alone at night; to not go to strange areas by yourself; to not take long road trips by yourself. And if you do these things, be prepared to address any dangerous situation that you may encounter.

8. Take calculated risks.

Calculated risks vary, and may include things such as:

a. Speaking out publicly against those who are gang-stalking and harassing you.
b. Taking legal action against those who are gang-stalking you and harassing you.
c. Publicly confronting those who are gang-stalking and harassing you.

Just remember that whatever risk you decide to take, calculate and assess the risk versus the outcome. If the outcome (the consequence) is worth the risk, then you may want to take the risk, assuming it’s lawful, of course. Just be as safe as you possibly can.

9. Identify and cut contact with toxic people.

This may seem like a no-brainer, but for some of us, it takes longer to get than others, especially if that individual is a family member or is someone who we consider to be a friend. And yes, I’m speaking from personal experience, in case you couldn’t tell! 🙂

It doesn’t matter who the toxic person is: cut them out of your life. It could be that the toxic people in your life are either the ones who are involved in the stalking and harassment, or are connected to the people who are involved in the stalking and harassment. But even if they aren’t, cutting toxic people out of your life will help you become a healthier, happier, stronger individual. And this, in turn, will help make you less of a desirable target for the gang-stalkers and harassers.

10. Identify and avoid toxic places.

Related to the above thought, if you are a regular patron of places where you know the people that are harassing and stalking you go (or likely go), then stop going to those places. It doesn’t matter if it’s a bar or a church, if you know or suspect that the people who are stalking and harassing you go there, then you may want to think about avoiding those places.

On the other hand, use common-sense discernment. You can’t simply stop going everywhere, and stay at home, holed up, fearing the harassers and gang-stalkers that may follow you there. So there’s a balance. Use good judgement: avoid obviously unsafe and toxic places as much as possible, but don’t stop living your life.

11. Carry yourself with confidence.

Yes, this is most often easier said than done. But remember that one of the things that gang-stalkers and harassers want to accomplish is to erode your confidence. So don’t let them! As you begin to make small changes within yourself and within your environment (such as the ones I’ve suggested here, and others that you will think of on your own or learn from others), you will begin to take control of yourself and your environment. And as you have more control over yourself and your environment, you will begin to feel more confident, and then you will begin to project that confidence.

12. Use the gang-stalkers and harassers weapons against them.

One of the greatest weapons they have is secrecy. So seek out ways to undermine their secrecy by openly speaking out against them, their tactics, their organizations, et cetera. The ways you can do this will vary depending upon the situation, and depending upon who is gang-stalking and harassing you. But the point is: don’t let fear get to you. Fight back with knowledge and with being verbal about what is going on.

13. Focus on the important things in life.

The most important thing, of course, is your relationship with the Heavenly Father. It seems to be a contradiction that submitting and surrendering control of your life to your Heavenly Father will actually help you gain control over your own life, but this is what you will find as you begin to surrender to the Father and give Him control. Submitting control of your life to Him will help with your confidence and self-esteem, over and above everything else that you do in the physical to take control of your own life. So begin with the foundation, and focus on what is important: your Heavenly Father.

Practically speaking, it’s important, too, to focus on taking good care of yourself. Buy, prepare, and eat the best food that you can afford. Get at least moderate amounts of exercise. Take vitamin supplements if you can bear the expense.

Spend time on things that are important to you. It may help you to make a list (either mentally or on paper) of those important things in your life, and start to focus on them. Aside from spiritual activities, such as prayer and studying the Scriptures, this list might include:

a. Non-toxic family members
b. Non-toxic friends
c. Pets
d. Hobbies or special skills, such as: reading, writing, crocheting, baking, woodworking, carpentry, scrapbooking, coloring, painting, drawing, singing, playing an instrument, coin collecting, et cetera
e. Physical activities, such as: gardening, cycling, kayaking, walking, swimming, playing basketball, et cetera
f. Special interests, such as: studying tank warfare as it relates to the tactics of the world wars, evaluating 19th century poetry, entomology, husbandry, et cetera
g. Charitable works

Focusing on what is important to you not only helps boost your mood and your self-esteem, but also helps you see yourself and your life as being worthwhile and important. It’s empowering.

14. Pray

This is last on the list, but it’s actually the most important.

There will likely be at least three focuses to your prayer:

a. You’ll first likely ask the Father to deliver you from the ones who are tormenting and harassing you. And you should. Jesus Christ taught that we should make our requests known to the Father, so if your request is for God to deliver you from your tormenters (as would be anyone’s prayer who is going through gang-stalking and harassment), then you absolutely should ask the Father to deliver you.

But here’s where it gets down and dirty. Here’s where it gets messy and ugly. Here’s where your faith will be tested to the extreme.

What if the Father chooses to not deliver you from those who are harassing you? What if His answer is “Not yet,” or even worse, “No”?

Will you still serve Him?

Many times, for reasons that are often beyond our scope of understanding, the will of the Father is not to rescue us from our suffering. Many times, for reasons that are often beyond our human comprehension, the will of the Father is not to deliver us from the pit of despair that we are in. Many times, for reasons that are often far beyond our ability to reason or fathom, the will of the Father is to allow us to stay in the circumstances that are causing us pain, and He asks, “Will you serve me anyway?

It’s not easy. But consider the following verses (emphasis added). I encourage you to follow the links and look at each of these verses in context. Context matters! 🙂

Luke 22:42 (BSB)

“Father, if You are willing, take this cup from Me. Yet not My will, but Yours be done.” (This was part of a prayer spoken by Jesus, asking the Father to save Him from His impending death.)

Matthew 5:11-12 (BSB)

Blessed are you when people insult you, persecute you, and falsely say all kinds of evil against you because of Me. Rejoice and celebrate, because great is your reward in heaven; for in the same way they persecuted the prophets before you.”

Philippians 1:29 (BSB)

“For it has been granted to you on behalf of Christ not only to believe in Him, but also to suffer for Him

1 Peter 4:12-13, 19 (BSB)

“Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery trial that has come upon you, as though something strange were happening to you. But rejoice that you share in the sufferings of Christ, so that you may be overjoyed at the revelation of His glory.”

“So then, those who suffer according to God’s will should entrust their souls to their faithful Creator and continue to do good. “

James 1:2-4, 12 (BSB)

“Consider it pure joy, my brothers, when you encounter trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. Allow perseverance to finish its work, so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything.”

“Blessed is the man who perseveres under trial, because when he has stood the test, he will receive the crown of life that God has promised to those who love Him.”

2 Corinthians 1:3-5 (BSB)

“Blessed be the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God. For just as the sufferings of Christ overflow to us, so also through Christ our comfort overflows.”

Romans 5:3-5 (BSB)

“Not only that, but we also rejoice in our sufferings, because we know that suffering produces perseverance; perseverance, character; and character, hope. And hope does not disappoint us, because God has poured out His love into our hearts through the Holy Spirit, whom He has given us.”

2 Timothy 3:12-13 (BSB)

“Indeed, all who desire to live godly lives in Christ Jesus will be persecuted, while evil men and imposters go from bad to worse, deceiving and being deceived.”

And for encouragement, meditate on these verses:

Romans 8:35-39 (NLT)

“Can anything ever separate us from Christ’s love? Does it mean he no longer loves us if we have trouble or calamity, or are persecuted, or hungry, or destitute, or in danger, or threatened with death? (As the Scriptures say, “For your sake we are killed every day; we are being slaughtered like sheep.”) No, despite all these things, overwhelming victory is ours through Christ, who loved us.

“And I am convinced that nothing can ever separate us from God’s love. Neither death nor life, neither angels nor demons, neither our fears for today nor our worries about tomorrow—not even the powers of hell can separate us from God’s love. No power in the sky above or in the earth below—indeed, nothing in all creation will ever be able to separate us from the love of God that is revealed in Christ Jesus our Lord.”

So if you ask the Father to deliver you from the hand of those who are stalking and harassing you, and if He says “No,” then He has a reason for your suffering. Trust Him. Submit to Him. He will give you the grace to endure.

This is a painful and harsh truth to face, but it is a basic spiritual principle that can be (and should be) applied to any and all situations in your life. Submitting control of your life over to God, and submitting to His will over and above all else, is ultimately freeing. And it brings peace that passes all understanding.

Consider this: Jesus Christ, the Son of God, was stalked and harassed from birth, and eventually, He was captured and killed. And it was the will of the Father. (See Isaiah 53 and Acts 2:23)

You see, sometimes the Father delivers us from the pit of darkness and despair. Sometimes He delivers us from our tormenters. But other times, He wants us to stay right there where we are, surrounded by trouble and turmoil. I never understood why until recently. And then I finally realized: God wanted me to stay right there in the pit I had been trying to avoid my entire life, because that’s where He was! He was there, beside me, the entire time! Yet I, in my very understandable desire to be out of that horrible place, kept struggling and trying to leave. And every time, I’d end right back in that same pit, feeling even more miserable, more angry, more bitter, each time. Until I realized that God wanted me there because that’s where He was. And He was waiting for me to stop focusing on the trouble that was surrounding me, and start focusing on Him.

So while, yes, I believe that you can and should take steps to protect and defend yourself from stalkers and harassers to the best of your ability (and within the limits of legal and moral law), you have to understand that fundamentally, your life belongs to the Father. It’s not yours. Jesus said, “You cannot be my disciple, unless you love me more than you love your father and mother, your wife and children, and your brothers and sisters. You cannot follow me unless you love me more than you love your own life. ” (Luke 14:26, ECV) See also: Galatians 2:20Philippians 1:21, Philippians 3:8, and Acts 20:24.

And while, yes, I believe that you can and should take steps to empower yourself and to educate yourself and to assert yourself in a positive way and to not allow other people to abuse you as much as it is within your power, you have to understand that people will do what people will do. You can’t control that.

In other words: abusers will continue to abuse; liars will continue to lie; harassers will continue to harass; stalkers will continue to stalk. They do these things because that’s who they are, and the only One who can change them is God. But if you focus on doing what YOU should be doing, and if you focus on WHO you should be focusing on (your Heavenly Father), then what other people do won’t matter as much, and their tactics won’t be as effective.

b. So then, with these verses in mind, the second focus of your prayers should be that while you are waiting for the Heavenly Father to deliver you (if it is in His will to do so), ask Him to enable you to endure the harassment and gang-stalking. And ask Him to help you to focus on Him and on His Word, in spite of the struggles and the torment that you are enduring.

c. The last focus of your prayer is another difficult one, but it’s important.

You should pray for your enemies. (See: Matthew 5:44, Romans 12:14, 1 Peter 3:9)

What should you pray?

Pray for them to come to repentance, for them to come to salvation, and that the will of the Father will be done in their lives. (See: Ezekiel 33:11, 2 Peter 3:9, 1 Timothy 2:4)

If you think about it for a moment, the awful position you are in has actually afforded you a unique and wonderful opportunity to pray for people who are in desperate need of salvation, deliverance, and forgiveness. So pray for them!

If you can’t pray for them, ask the Father to help you pray for them, and over time, He will give you grace and move upon your heart to pray from a sincere and loving heart that is concerned for the salvation of their souls.

* Important Note: yes, I believe that you can pray, and at the same time take measures to protect and defend yourself within the limits of legal and moral law, both of man and of God. However, if you’re morally opposed to defending or to protecting yourself, then just pray. It’s your most important defense and weapon, anyway. 🙂 See: Spiritual Warfare According to Scripture and How to Pray.

But in case it’s not clear, there is a definite distinction between defense and retaliation. Defense (of either self or others) is an immediate response to an immediate danger; retaliation, on the other hand, is calculated and pre-meditated. I am an advocate of defense, and I believe that when you are able to defend and protect yourself or others, then this is an acceptable response according to Scripture. But I do not believe that retaliation is of God. However, as with all things, I’m open to being corrected by Scripture that has been properly interpreted within context.

The Spiritual Side of Gang-Stalking and Harassment

Carolyn and I also talked about this a bit in our book in the section called “Backlash,” although, again, we didn’t use the term “gang-stalking.” It will help if you read through this chapter.

But basically, what I mean by the “spiritual side of gang-stalking and harassment” is when people stalk and harass you in the astral realms. This type of thing involves the demonic, of course, because the ability to do this comes from the demonic. However, sometimes the demonic presence is more tangible than other times.

This astral/spiritual harassment can include:

  1. Them sending curses your way.
  2. Them sending demons to attack you. (Sometimes they believe the demons are “angels” that they are in contact with, but they are not angels. They are demons.)
  3. Them spying on you in the astral.
  4. Them coming to you in the astral and attacking you physically.
  5. Them coming to you in the astral and sexually accosting you.
  6. Them inserting themselves into your dreams.

On the physical side, there’s not a lot you can do to prevent people from coming against you with this type of harassment and stalking, and it’s certainly not anything that can be proven in the court of law. There’s no evidence to collect and there’s not anything you can do legally.

There are some things that you can do, however, to minimize the effects of this type of spiritual attack, and slow it down — or perhaps even stop it altogether, depending upon the situation.

Other than what we wrote in our book, here are a few important things to consider.

When you are being attacked in the astral, the things you can do to protect and defend yourself fall under two basic categories:

1. Ask the Father to give you protection and to defend you.

The same things that I wrote in the above section about this applies here, as well. The Father may defend and protect you from these types of spiritual attacks; but at times, He may want you to endure, for whatever reasons He has. But regardless of what is going on around you, learn to keep your focus on HIM, and not on your attackers.

2. Take the opportunity to pray for those who are coming against you.

As when you are being attacked in the physical, think of this as a unique and blessed opportunity that the Father is allowing you to have to pray for people who are obviously in desperate need of deliverance and salvation! So pray earnestly for their salvation, that they might repent before the Father and be reconciled to Him.

In addition to those two things, here are a few other things to bear in mind.

1. Make sure that you have closed any and all doors to the demonic yourself. This includes:

a. repenting of (turning away from) sin and sinful behaviors
b. living a life of submission to the Father
c. walking in righteousness and in obedience to His Word (the Bible)

Each of these things are made possible only because of Jesus Christ, and the Spirit of God enables us to do these things. So if you are having difficulty with any of these things (and you probably are, since you are human like the rest of us 🙂 ), then ask the Father to help you! And He will.

* Important to Note: While these things will not prevent demonic attacks (nor will it 100% prevent demonically controlled people from coming against you in the astral), they will help in protecting yourself against unnecessary demonic attack.

2. Cut off toxic people from your life. This includes people who are practicing this type of witchcraft, as well as people who are connected to people who are practicing this type of witchcraft.

3. DO NOT retaliate in any way by launching a counter-attack with any type of so-called “spiritual weapon.”

First of all, to do such is retaliatory in nature, and it is not defensive.

Second of all, while you may find temporary relief, ultimately, it won’t work.

Think about this:

The people who are coming against you in the spirit world are not operating in the physical. So you can’t protect or defend in the same way as you would in the physical. Furthermore, they are operating out of the demonic. And when you are dealing with the demonic and with spiritual realms, you don’t fight with carnal (physical) weapons. And, so-called “weapons” such as “light, water, salt, fire, swords, shields, cages, scissors, chains,” et cetera, ARE NOT SPIRITUAL, but are CARNAL (physical).

The spiritual weapons that we have are not light, water, salt, fire, swords, shields, or anything else like that. But according to Scripture, our spiritual weapons include:

a. Salvation
b. Submission to the Father
c. Opposing what is of Satan
d. Not allowing Satan the opportunity to gain power or control over us
e. Truth
f. Righteousness
g. The gospel of peace
h. Faith
i. Love
j. The Word of God
k. Prayer and petition to God
l. Persevering in prayer for one another

(For an explanation of these things and for Scripture references, see: Spiritual Warfare According to Scripture.)

If people are attacking you in the astral and sending curses your way, they are operating out of a spirit of witchcraft. And by retaliating against them using weapons that are not of God, and by using them in a way that is not of God, you are participating in the same type of witchcraft as they are. And you can’t fight witchcraft with more witchcraft. It doesn’t work.

So leave the carnal weapons in the physical, where they belong, and fight (defend and protect yourself) according to what the Word of God teaches.

4. DO NOT command (or ask, or pray) that God’s angels do anything to protect or defend you. If you read the book that Carolyn and I wrote, you will understand that this is not of God. We do not have the authority to command angels. This is not a privilege that God has given us. HE is the commander of the armies of heaven; not us.

To read more about this, see: Angels.

No matter what circumstances are surrounding you, learn to focus on the Father, over and above all else. He is your Protector; He is your Defender; He is your Deliverer. Lean on Him and trust that He is working all things for your good, in accordance to His will. (Romans 8:28).

It is my prayer that the will of the Father is accomplished in your life, and that you have the peace of His Spirit that comes from submitting to His will and from walking in obedience to His Word.

Loren ♥

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UPDATE: over the years since this article was first written, we’ve received emails from people who say they are being gang-stalked and harassed, and asking us for help in their particular situation. Some of them have even gone so far as to give us their telephone numbers where they can be reached, asking us to call them. This isn’t a wise thing to do at all.

We’d like to remind you that, aside from any advice or suggestions we may share in our blog articles (this one and in others), we are not in a position to offer more concrete help, such as locating a safe house for you or somehow protecting you from being harassed. Neither do we have the ability to give you tailored advice for your specific situation (what is generally called “counseling,” or sometimes “life-coaching”), and we can’t be an emotional or mental support for you.

We simply do not have the resources, the physical or emotional ability, nor the experience in being such a hands-on advocate for others. The only advice and help we have to offer you is found in our articles, and this is the best we can do at the moment.

We are also not very likely to have insider information of the goings-on within your particular community, so we don’t have advice to offer there, either.

To conclude, please do not email us asking for our help. That is an impossible task for us. Please avail yourself of the resources around you, and if necessary, with people who have the means and the ability to help in a more concrete fashion. This article gives some suggestions on how to do that.

For more info, read the information on our “Contact Us” page, and our “Disclaimers.”

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This page was updated on 6/20/19 to include information about online security, and updated again on 10/8/20 with an important notice.